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Life can be a Pain

Life can be a Pain

Hi @BlueBay@Zoe7@Former-Member@Faith-and-Hope@utopia@oceangirl@TAB@Shaz51@PeppiPatty

I know there are more people I could tag but maybe I will think them up as I go along - actually I already have

I think I need my own thread - mostly my problem is chronic pain syndrome - I damaged my spine with the sporting excesses of my youth - a long time ago now - and I managed to rearrange it when I fell of my pushbike in a wind storm nearly 22 years ago and that seems a long time ago now but there is nothing they can do except treat the pain - and I do have Section 8 medication and I see a pain specialist

And the pain has been worse lately and wears me down and I get fed up and very tired -

I have issues with my mother as well - and although she died 2 years ago I still have bad times now and again - she was abusive and as well as I know myself and her this can get to me at times - and this is another reason I opened my own thread

Then there is TS - my Toxic Sister - she was under my skin for a while but not at the moment

So yesterday I felt so bad when I went to see the doctor about my back pain - and my pain specialist has cut my medication back several times over the last few years and she has gone too far - and I started to tell my doctor - yes - I cope with the pain better since my mother died - but it's driving me crackers atm and so are the memories of my mother

So that's it for now - I have had trouble opening this thread for some reason but now I have - I will run my own story - I would like to think I don't need to but yes - I do

You are all such wonderful supportive people - you are my soft place to land - that is so true

And anyone I have missed I will tag as I go along

Lots of hugs everyone

Dec

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Thans @outlander

Yes - I do not want to lose my independence - I am a night-owl and the best TV is on at night and there is something about the nights that I enjoy alone - just the peace of the night-time or whatever - it is the best time of day for me

So when I had the last operation on my knee - I was in a private hospital - and around 2.00am I was still doing Sudoku Puzzles and a nurse came in and asked me if I was okay - yes I was - but uncomfortable - could she take the cryotherapy pack off my knee for a while - no she couldn't but she came back with an injection -

Anyway - I guess my case worker has a lot of people unable to fathom this maze of contradictory paper work and inter-net stuff - and I can ring up myself - and then of course - I can tell her the answser myself - I was prepared to accept the cost of the package but apparently even millionaires can have this package subsidized so I am still confused about the truth here but there is a phone number and I can ring up myself

And all time time I am wondering about people who cannot follow the on-line mysteries - it must be a nightmare for them - and all of this is supposed to make life easier for us oldies - um - totally convinced a politician has invented this nightmare - but I can ring up on Monday - if fact I have do much to do on Monday I am wondering a whole lot if I need two Mondays next week

What a horrible thought

I thought your Nan had died but then everyone usually has two grandmothers and so you have this to deal with now - I did read what you wrote though by that time the other night - Thursday I think - I am not sure now but yes - it sounds horrific - and it is terrible to think people can be treated that way - and this should not happen now but does

Eg - my son was in Juvenile Detention but it was a bad place and when we get into activation-mode yes - we do get a surge of adrenaline and this can help us cope with a lot of things - the things we do not act on can really wear us down - so yes - be there at some point and right here behind you - like so many others here I have your back

My cat - yes - it's the most important thing on my list atm - she is 14 now and she has been healthy all her life except for a few wounds from fights when she was younger - and arthritis of course - now she feels like a little furry bundle of fragile little bones and generally seems unwell and has thrown up stormach fluids - not a good sign -

So yeah - just in case they have to do tests and I have to leave her at the vet for a urine test - I will make the appointment on Tuesday - oh no - it can't be that early on Tuesday either - back to Monday afternoon -

She's asleep behind me on the couch atm - cats sleep all day and all night except getting up to check their list of things to do -

All the best with the stuff regarding your grandmother - I am with you on that

Dec

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@Owlunar

I like the nights but they are also my worst enemy too. I dont need to explain this to you.

Im glad you like the night time too. Theres a reason your a night owl hey.

Im glad you were taken care off for your last op. Thats good to hear.

Hmm confusing about the care package. I suppose a part of you wants to get the answers yourself rather than wait on others too which is fine and no worries about that.

Yes I often wonder how people get on without the internet and those who have it but cant navigate around it. Must be so confusing. Im pretty tech savvy kinda hard not to be growing up with all the technlogy this generation but even still I get confused.

Yes a horrible thought indeed!

Ahh sorry I mean like my great grandmother. I call my mums mum nan and nans mum grandmother. Sorry for the confusion. Anyway was talking to my great grandmother on the phone while mum was there and she told me that she seen my nan who passed away. My nan when she passed a few days before she told me she saw her father and also met with the queen.

A few days after she passed a way. I believe this is the sprit realm. It wasnt adrenlaine that had me fulled it was the complete disrrespect these people have for the elderly yet work in that environment. If you dont like it then why go there...

hmm thats not a very good sign is it, 14 though shes had a very good run and im sure shes had the best care with you. Lets hope though that she pulls through for abit longer. Its all the unkown that gets to us isnt it. The waiting game.

And im with you on whatever your going through too. All of it

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thinking of you @Owlunar , sending you hugs for everything that is going on my friend

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Dear @Owlunar I agree with you about Companion Cat and not letting her suffer... it will be very hard though. With my last companion animals I ended up giving them round the clock care and it was draining and I wonder how much pain they were in ... I wont do it again.

I will be thinking of you ,.. xxx

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Hi @Owlunar, feel for you, ita no wonder you're feeling the strain of life atm - you have a lot going on, big things, with plenty of uncertainty. The cat, the knele, your care package (needed support), new pain specialist... this is hard.

Deep breaths! 💜💜💜

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@Owlunar. I'm struggling today only being able to use my left arm. Right arm wrapped up straight for at least a week. and there are so many things that I cannot do with one hand, and my left hand. Even eating is hard.

Struggling to deal with this slight inconvenience. It's only temporary, but it's bringing me down. How on earth are you to cope with your back and your knee? I don't know. But I hope you are able to find a way.

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Yes @Former-Member@Bunniekins@Shaz51@outlander

It is a lot to take in - but I have been feeling okay today - until Companion Cat decided to jump on my chair and tripped me and I broke my fall by elegantly dropping onto the chair and scraped my knees a bit on the carpet and I have back pain from that but having a little curse at the time I was okay and good get up - now she should know better than to trip me -

I was making a batch of meat patties and I will freeze most of them but the cat gets the idea there is food about when I start preparing vegies and bang on the green vegie board - she things I am doing something with chicken - sorry cat - that's red meat you are not supposed to have - sigh - at least I have done the meat patties and prepared a salad

I just read your message @utopia - what happened to your arm - your right arm I seem to remember - that makes life a bit difficult for someone who lives alone and here your own with your arm bandaged - and what can you eat - or prepare to eat - with that - and yes - I know that it's hard to eat one-handed unless you eat with a fork

Oh yes @outlander - your great grandmother - of course - and I am appalled to hear such abuse still happens -

My daughter was to do a week's work experience in an Aged Care Facility - and she rang me on the first morning weeping - she was so upset by the conditions there and I went and picked her up and went straight to her school to complain - this was powerful - and it turned out that one of the people there died that night and everyone was unhappy - yes - good question about the people who work there who don't do a good job - I think it could be thankless work and maybe they accept people with poor qualifications because they will work for less

But yeah = I understand -

Dec

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@Owlunar. I had a sun spot cut out of my arm 2 weeks ago. A few stitches. After 14 days the stitches came out. 7 hours later, the suture line split open. So they have patched me up and bandaged me so my arm is kept straight. That way I can't bend it and keep reopening the suture line. Doctor will check it next Thursday and see if it's healed enough or whether I need to keep it straight for another week.
Just finding it all really frustrating. Nothing is simple to do now.

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ooh thats not good is it @utopia speedy recovery!

hey @Former-Member

@Owlunarpoor little companion cat. i still wish the very best but as you said the odds arent in your favour. did you end up playing your piano tonight? and yeah it disgusts me how some nursing homes are these days. there have been 4 other family members visit her on separate occassions and it was still the same so it wasnt jsut an off day otherwise we mightve let it go. there is now 6 of us writing official complaints. its not their fault they are old. its a bloody miracle to live that long now

anyway. speedy recovery for you to, or to be able to better manage

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