Is he cheating on me guys??

Hey @Veemay05 ,

I'm so so sorry this has been happening. I can see you have spoken to him directly, but he has not really responded adequately.

I can see why you have these hesitations and thoughts in your mind.

I wonder if you can open up to him and tell him how you are feeling because of all this 'evidence'?

And in a way, children don't lie about what they see...

I've been telling him how I'm feeling and he keeps saying,"baby, I would never do that. Just me you and our kids sleep in that bed why would I ever do that."

He's still saying he doesn't know how the condoms got into the house. He just said,"Could you of brang them home in a little package sort of thing that healthcare gives out to people." I said,"I haven't been at the house in over a year, the last time I was, I was grabbing my stuff out of that cupboard to pack."

I asked him again about what our child saw. He said,"That's really creepy, I think that's why he doesn't like sleeping in his room because he says he hears things."

The bloke has a story for everything. I told him that I don't believe him.

I have work all this week and am planning on going back on the weekend without telling him. Idk I'll just see what happens. I think I just need to sell everything and move on with my life and he can just start from scratch again. It's just really sad. I haven't slept in days.

I really hear that this is eating you up @Veemay05 . It is understandable that you feel this way.

At the same time, would you give him the benefit of the doubt and wait a little longer before jumping to things like selling everything? For the sake of your children?

At the same time, I hear that your gut is telling you something is up....

Just to clarify, have you always lived separately?

No, this is this first time.

I've been trying so hard though to talk, even when I was with him, I dropped the kids off at his relatives house so we can talk in peace and he just wasn't having any of it. He denied everything.

I was just speaking to him, and today he was denying it all but was over the top nice about everything.

It's been months of different things popping up, and I'm just tired. I think if I can't get through to him over the weekend and get some answers, I'm just going to fold and walk away.

I just keep second guessing myself though and what I should really do... I've been trying to talk to him, what else should I do?

That's so tough @Veemay05 .

I'm thinking speaking more along the lines of, "I've been really concerned that you are not being open and honest with me. I've hardhly slept because I'm thinking about this all the time. I'm at the point where I want to walk away. Please be honest with me. Do you still want to be together?"

The hard part is, what happens if he IS being honest?

Also, if he says he IS cheating, are you still going to walk away?

And if he says he's not, are you still going to walk away?

Do YOU still want to be with him?

Hey @Veemay05 , how are you? We are thinking about you.