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Feeling stressed and not in a good place.

Arbie_wunSenior Contributor15 Jan 2025, 1:34 am AEDT

Feeling stressed and not in a good place.

I finished my work day at 6pm and was home around 6:45. It's normally about 30 minutes drive and because it was warm I took my time leaving work.

By 7pm I was back on the road, this time a 30 minute drive to the local Emergency. For when I got home I had found out my dad has almost had 3 falls and he had chest pain (which I later found out started at 11am)

We were in triage at 7:30pm and he was in a bed by 7:45. I was actually quite calm this time but abut 9:15 I needed to escape for food. I ate enough for a small couple, now I am guilt tripping myself and stressing about all sorts of non essentials.

I have to admit I felt a strong urge to message someone whom I promised I wouldn't message until after my Feb 14th appointment.

I have been struggling for a period of time and allowed my unstable thoughts to control my actions. During this time I had interactions with a good friend which I am certainly not proud of. I would never consciously hurt them but my instability caused more problems and pain that I could fully understand.

Knowing that I have specific mental health issues and doing my best to keep a promise. I am lucky that I have some control at the moment but I was so so close to caving when I should leave them be.

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Unknown userMember15 Jan 2025, 1:46 am AEDT

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@Arbie_wun it sounds like today has been incredibly stressful for you. It's OK to feel the way you do.

But i think you have shown such strength in not giving in when you felt like it. That really says alot about how far you have come and how much you want to continue to grow.

I hope your dad is ok and getting the care he needs.

Take care of yourself and reach out for support if you need it.

Always an ear hear to listen if you need/ want.

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Arbie_wunSenior Contributor15 Jan 2025, 9:56 am AEDT

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@Former-Member thank you for those words, I know it was a challenge to not give in and do something that I know I shouldn't and had promised someone that I wouldn't do.

The stress levels were high for sure, and it has been a tough couple months here, with this just adding to the chaos and uncertainty. I found that venting was helpful in getting it out of my head which is a nice place to start.

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Unknown userMember15 Jan 2025, 5:29 pm AEDT

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@Arbie_wun it's always good to get things out rather than sitting with everything alone.

How are you feeling today?

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Arbie_wunSenior Contributor15 Jan 2025, 5:54 pm AEDT

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@Former-Member ... I am still stressed, I was actually at the gym when I got a call from my sister. The hospital wanted dad to go in for some scans. Turns out they reviewed his data from last night and they found an anomaly which indicated a possible clot so they now are doing a CT Scan.

I just got home after spending a few hours at the hospital waiting to see what was going on and I am feeling stressed and had to get away for a bit to do a few things at home!

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Unknown userMember15 Jan 2025, 5:56 pm AEDT

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@Arbie_wun sorry to hear. Hopefully they can find out what's going on.

Sending you lots of strength, here if you need to chat ❤️

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Arbie_wunSenior Contributor15 Jan 2025, 6:02 pm AEDT

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I had to get out of the hospital for a bit and currently trying to process things and vent a little.

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tymeModerator15 Jan 2025, 8:04 pm AEDT

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Will you be staying at the hospital tonight? I'm sorry to hear about your dad. Hope you are both okay @Arbie_wun

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Arbie_wunSenior Contributor15 Jan 2025, 8:06 pm AEDT

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I had to get out of there for my own health. I had a nig nap and think it's because of anxiety because I am still tired and feeling stressed.

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tymeModerator15 Jan 2025, 8:12 pm AEDT

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Oh hun... it's been a big day. Please take care and look after yourself @Arbie_wun

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Arbie_wunSenior Contributor15 Jan 2025, 8:15 pm AEDT

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That's why I got away, needed some space and was stressing because of e everything that's going on But also has gone on over the past 2 months!

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