Being Alone Intentionally

Hey @Fredd50 @UnpredictableMe ,

Welcome to the forums. Thank you for sharing a little about yourselves.

@UnpredictableMe , I was very 'excited' to read your post because I haven't found many people who can relate to this situation - but I can!

Like you, I LIKE to be alone - intentionally.

I prefer to go out by myself, or go and have a coffee myself.

When I finish work, it's like 'Phew!' I can be by myself now!

Do I feel lonely? Nope!

Do I feel isolated? Nope!

I totally get what you mean @UnpredictableMe . I look forward to connecting with you more to hear more about what you experience as someone with BPD (oh, I haven't mentioned, I have BPD).

@Fredd50 , I also hear what you are saying. You are not alone in feeling that you feel isolated at times. Do you have people you can talk to as a way to feel more connected with people?

I’m heartened to hear you guys enjoy being alone

I often feel awkward in social settings and run back to being alone

so I’m kind of caught in a vice grip

On the one hand I run back to being alone when people reach out to me or I reach out to them

on the other hand I feel lonely on my own

I think it’s something I have to address by finding things to do when I’m alone that I find enjoyment in

do you guys have activities you like doing on your own that keep you occupied and happy alone?

Hey @Fredd50 ,

When I'm alone, I like going for walks, browsing my phone, reading, sleeping, catching up with text messages, going to buy the things I need...

I guess for me, I don't have much time alone and maybe that's why I treasure it so much. I just like being quiet, not have to wait for people, not having people wait for me, not being obliged to talk to people....

So I can't say I'm doing grand activities on my own.

I have to say though, in the past, I've been surrounded by people but still felt lonely. I just feel a lot more comfortable alone - or with kids.

Hey @UnpredictableMe @Fredd50

I'm thinking of you both. Hope you are okay.