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I am back after a little while

Arbie_wunSenior Contributor08 Jan 2025, 10:01 pm AEDT

I am back after a little while

I stopped visiting because I was ok, or so I thought. I have since had a few issues with my mental health again. It started at the end of November when my mother passed away, suddenly there was a lot of stress and of course I haven't really been grieving so I guess there is a bit of that whole guilt thing there.

I have had a couple other issues and a friend who is seeing a professional on a regular basis has advised me that I am suffering from "Nice Guy Syndrome". I also know that I haven't had a proper relationship with a woman for over a decade. That one ended in rather difficult and uncomfortable circumstances. The relationship before that also ended abruptly and I guess over time I have developed mechanisms to cope with that which are not good nor healthy.

I need some help but I am not sure where to start at the moment !

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tymeModerator09 Jan 2025, 8:25 pm AEDT

Re: I am back after a little while

While you wait for everything else, at least you get 15 weeks' support. The first point of contact after your referral only takes 24-48 business days @Arbie_wun That's the beauty of it.

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tymeModerator09 Jan 2025, 8:25 pm AEDT

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Let me know if you need help checking your eligibility. @Arbie_wun If you go to the Guided Recovery Link, it should all be there.

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Arbie_wunSenior Contributor09 Jan 2025, 8:26 pm AEDT

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@tyme ... unfortunately my location is rather rural and remote so that has hampered me as they are not accepting referrals from this area at the moment!

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tymeModerator09 Jan 2025, 8:30 pm AEDT

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hrm... I guess you're not moving house any time soon to be able to put your new address? @Arbie_wun

Otherwise, you can have a look at the Recovery Club, but it's not 1:1 support. It's more psycho-education connection and learning. https://www.sane.org/recovery-club

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GlistenSenior Contributor09 Jan 2025, 11:59 pm AEDT

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@Arbie_wun actions speak louder than words. Preferably one should match the other.

Ghosting says more about the person doing the ghosting, than it does you.

Spineless as well as bad manners and a lack of respect for others.

As for the woman who went back to her husband. Sometimes you got to be happy, that they are doing what makes them happy.

Relationships are difficult because a lot of it, isn’t about you.

I recently did a couple of dumbass things to a good friend. Leftover trauma responses. Fear of rejection and getting hurt. I really did myself a disservice.

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Arbie_wunSenior Contributor10 Jan 2025, 9:25 am AEDT

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@Glisten I totally understand that, I have messed up a few times recently with a good friend trying to keep them out of my mess. Unfortunately it seems a former friend has in fact worked out who they are and messaged them.

I attempted to hide who this person was with a "smoke screen" and it's been used to upset the friend. I have apologised as much as I could and understand their upset. Naturally they have been given only some of the information (along with some falsehoods)

I'm rather upset by it but I have to let my friend vent and hope they understand.

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