AmorCasual Contributor
Struggling with My Partner’s Mental Health During Pregnancy
Hi everyone,
I’m reaching out because I’m feeling overwhelmed and don’t know where else to turn. My partner is pregnant, and while I want to feel excited and hopeful, it’s been one of the hardest periods of my life.
We started living together without a solid foundation or deep connection, and it’s clear that this has added to her frustration. She might be struggling with undiagnosed borderline personality disorder (BPD), which has made things incredibly difficult.
Her behavior swings between being very toxic—lashing out and treating me poorly—and moments of intense affection, like trying to hug or kiss me, apologizing constantly, or saying she wants to die. It’s emotionally exhausting, and I feel like I’m losing myself in the process.
Every day feels like a mental battle, and I don’t feel like “me” anymore. I want to support her and be there for our child, but it’s killing me mentally.
If anyone has been in a similar situation—dealing with a partner’s mental health issues during pregnancy or struggling in a relationship without a strong foundation—I’d be so grateful for your advice or just knowing I’m not alone.
Thank you for listening.
