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Therapy without talking about trauma details

creative_writerSenior Contributor31 Dec 2024, 8:40 pm AEDT

Therapy without talking about trauma details

Anyone have experience with going into therapy and not having to go in detail about past trauma. I can give context but I don’t want to go through each and every detail. Talking about details kept me stuck in the loop with my previous psych. It was exhausting. I’m thinking way too much tonight, I need to find a new psych but I’m so scared to start all over again. I am also afraid the new therapist will expect me to talk about it all when my mind refuses. I’ve had too many bad experiences, it has caused me to shut down

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creative_writerSenior Contributor05 Jan 2025, 7:23 pm AEDT

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@tyme sometimes my brain just wants to easy way out even if it’s not good in the long run. But do I really want to develop substance related issues when I already have other things going on too? It hurts to resist because I know it’ll take the pain away for a bit, though it could potentially trigger mania and insomnia. I would take mania (as long as it’s not mixed) over this. At times like this I understand why my Uncle with bipolar was such a heavy smoker. I used to judge him when I was younger.

Right now I’m just doing the regular evening stuff. Just had dinner, prayed. I am also sitting in front of the fan, the heat isn’t helping. My parents have air con but I just want to be alone right now. I am also on the forums

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JustSenior Contributor05 Jan 2025, 7:24 pm AEDT

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@tyme the distraction is good if it's what your seeking out for yourself and not just feeling like you should help others. Please don't cry. You make me cry.

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tymeModerator05 Jan 2025, 7:38 pm AEDT

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Hey @creative_writer , do what you need to. Also, please don't feel pressured to respond if you don't feel up to it and you prefer to be left alone. I get that too sometimes. Please just know we are here for you.

@Just , I had my good cry yesterday. I've had my meds so hopefully, by the time I hop off tonight, I'll be tired and ready to sleep. Here's some hugs for you - HUGS HUGS HUGS.

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creative_writerSenior Contributor05 Jan 2025, 7:46 pm AEDT

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@tyme being on the forums might help me feel better. I just don’t feel like connecting to people in person right now. Maybe I’m too tired of having to pretend to be okay. I feel too tired to physically talk too, and my throat is sore so I’m saving my voice. You know what I’m tired of, I’m tired of pretending that I’m okay when I’m not. But there is no other way. Pretending takes a toil on you eventually. If only I could let the steam out more regularly, maybe life wouldn’t feel this hard

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tymeModerator05 Jan 2025, 8:01 pm AEDT

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I hear that. I'll have plenty of it later this week when I travel interstate to see my parents and family. I probably won't go to many family functions with cousins... too much socialising @creative_writer

But yeah, the masking is exhausting!

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creative_writerSenior Contributor05 Jan 2025, 8:22 pm AEDT

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@tyme I think it’s wise to know your limits. Socialising can be exhausting when you’re masking.

I’ve cleared out my nose, feeling a bit better afterwards, it’s easier to get oxygen in.

My mind keeps going back to the last. I don’t even know what I need. I think it’s Scrupulosity OCD type thinking. Feeling unworthy, disgusting, immoral. Even though I haven’t done anything wrong

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tymeModerator05 Jan 2025, 8:37 pm AEDT

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I sure hear you @creative_writer . Intrusive, unhelpful thoughts?

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creative_writerSenior Contributor05 Jan 2025, 8:46 pm AEDT

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@tyme yes there are intrusive and unhelpful thought. It’s hard to shake them off. My brain believes that since people don’t feel comfortable talking about it, then I must have done something wrong

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tymeModerator05 Jan 2025, 8:50 pm AEDT

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Human brains are such strange things... they've developed to tell us lies sometimes as a way to...cope?

@creative_writer You are such a battler

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creative_writerSenior Contributor05 Jan 2025, 9:22 pm AEDT

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@tyme human brains are weird. I know it doesn’t sound logical. I know on a logical level it’s not my fault but then I also feel like it is. It’s confusing. I’m used to be left to my own devices emotionally. So I managed to get through the torturous period by disassociating. It didn’t even feel like it happened to me until years later

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