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john74Senior Contributor
Feeling terrible today it my 50 th birthday and my own kids can't even be bothered contacting me. Haven't seen or heard of them in over 2 years after nasty dv marriage breakdown. It really hurts should l just write them off as no existent?
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Ru-beeModerator
Hi @john74 I'm really sorry to hear that, I can hear how painful it is to not have that contact on such a significant day.
I just want to let you know that I'm here with you
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BunniekinsSenior Contributor
@john74 hi john74 thats really sad. dont write them off keep yourself open for reconciliation. never, ever give up. in the mean time it is important for you to get on with your life and be strong in yourself. kids can be self absorbed paricularly when they are starting familys themselves.
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Unknown userMember
Hi @john74
happy birthday for yesterday and I am sorry you felt the absence of loved ones. I can't equate much pain to the one of family choosing to not engage.
i think hope is always important if one day you and then choose to align again, however recently I have also realised I have been putting g efforts in people who are not interested and wandered if I should take some of that energy and put it into people who are open to leaning into healing and restoring. I have one successful so far but take the time to feel the grief because it is real and deserves the space to feel and heal
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john74Senior Contributor
Thanks @Former-Member l am so down today
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Unknown userMember
Yeah I hear you, I am sitting here in my room alone eating oats trying to treat it like any other day, but then my family don't talk to me any other day either so maybe it still sucks🤔🤷🏻♀️
anyway I am sorry, I not know what to offer as advice because we are all so different and just hope whatever helps you get through the day whether it's a drive through McDonald's for a cheeseburger or a good movie you find something to distract yourself.
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