Relationship and depression relapse

Hey @Asziej ,

Thank you for sharing.

I'm sorry to hear you are experiencing these challenges with your partner and your own mental health.

I have to say this is not the first I've heard when people say that depression is in your head and isn't real. The last person that sad this ended up having very close family fall into depression.

In a way, I feel they will eventually learn - maybe the hard way?

When reading your post, I'm wondering whether the hormonal changes are affecting your mental health? This is very common. Would you consider speaking to your doctor about it?

As for your partner, I hope things iron out and he is able to be supportive of you. It's going to be a ride juggling pregnancy, mental health, relationship challenges and baby later.

Do you have any other supports?

@Asziej Hello,

I’m really sorry you’re feeling unsupported. I’ve had similar experiences in the past, but I’ve been fortunate to receive support from a good community and have distanced myself from toxic relationships as much as possible.

I’ve been supported by my psychologist, psychiatrist, GP, and most recently, the team at Lifeline recommended this site. It’s a continual fight when talking about mental health, and I’ve learned how important it is to seek out the right support and community when things feel overwhelming.

Hi @Asziej, welcome to the group.

I'm sorry that you are feeling so unsupported at the moment, especially with you having so much going on with your own mental health, work, pregnancy, and trying to manage your relationship. It seems completely normal to me for anyone to be struggling in a situation like this. You are doing so much to look after your yourself... i guess with your work you would know better than most what to do. It's just a pity about the lack of support at home.

To be so dismissed and invalidated, both with your feelings and experiences, must be so hurtful. It's hard to understand where his reactions come from. Whether its just from a lack of understanding or maybe he has his own issues and is a bit defensive about the subject. Either way I think the relationship therapy is a really good idea and hopefully it will allow your partner to get a much better idea of how serious it is what you're going through and its not just something to "get over". The same thing for you not being lazy or weak because you are struggling right now, but doing the best you can during some incredibly difficult circumstances. It can only be a help to you both for him to help you feel supported and valued and you can both build a stronger relationship together.

I do understand that feeling of being a burden by talking to your mum. I don't have much support around me either and I feel the same way... like i'd be 'dumping' to much on the couple of people I have to talk to about my own struggles. But they've helped me to see that i'm not being a burden and that they want to support me. I still feel like a but of a burden... old habits are hard to get over... but it's been a big help to me to feel better about sharing more with them. Maybe not everything just yet, but a lot more than I did a few months ago. It's still a work in progress.

So please feel free to reach out to anyone you can. I try to think of it now like if your mum was struggling, would you want her to talk to you about it or keep it to herself and not be a burden to you? It's helped me to reframe my own thoughts about being a burden and allowed me to feel more able to reach out to the few people I do have around me I can talk to. So continue to take care of yourself and know that you don't have to feel alone. And I really hope you can get your partner to that relationship therapy.

Hi @Wesco5454 @Asziej ,

How are you?

@tyme Great and yourself?

That's good to hear that you are 'great' 🙂 @Wesco5454

What's been happening?

Things have been pretty good in my side. Nothing special. Just enjoying life as it is.

Feel free to tag me if you ever want a chat. I recognise life can throw curveballs at us sometimes.

@tyme nothing special, work and getting out. A few days into summer.

Yes life is a mixture of ups and downs, helps you appreciate the "ups" a little more when they come.

Any summer plans?

True that @Wesco5454

I think sometimes, we don't realise what 'ups' are until we have a few downs.

Sounds pretty chill on your side? Just the same old, same old?

Summer plans? Pool, water, beach, travelling interstate to see family... not much else