@Glisten 1000%! It gets so exhausting trying to explain that no, it's not that I don't care or that I'm not trying, it's that there's a mental wall in my brain that feels physically impossible to break through, and sometimes you gotta wait for me to find my way around!!
@ArraDreaming in my opinion it would depend on why one is seeking the diagnosis. Sometimes it is so that we can access services (e.g. makes it easier to get onto NDIS) and sometimes I think it's cos it can feel very validating to get officially diagnosed, and will help in getting the right kind of support. If there's nothing in your life that getting an ASD diagnosis would be useful for, it might just be a money-hole indeed. Personally I think self-diagnosis for ASD is very valid, particularly in terms of then being able to join/access the ASD community.