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Am Not Coping

Am Not Coping

I am really not coping at the moment but this is entirely on ME!

This is a message for a few people on here @utopia @Former-Member @Faith-and-Hope @Former-Member

that I asked could be passed on but it seems that only part of it has been and I understand from the responses that have made it through my emails that I have caused untold distress for some people. I was not going to return because of what I felt I put people through but I especially wanted @utopia and @Former-Member to know that they were not wrong at the time and I was going through a real crisis period. You both held me together for longer than I could myself until the point where my own self-destructive thoughts overwhelmed me.

The entire message that I sent to SANE is below:

I have just viewed the multitude of emails and messages sent from forum members and members of the SANE team – as well as the text and voice message left on my phone.

I have not been able to communicate with anyone since the other night as I have been recovering from what ended up being an unsuccessful attempt to end the pain.

At the time I was in a very distressed state and I did want to stop the pain and all I seemed to achieve is to cause others pain and worry and that is the last thing I wanted to do – I just wanted to end mine and say goodbye to everyone beforehand so my future absence was explained. I should have realised that the message I posted would have concerned some people but I really was not in any state to think about the repercussions for others.

I am so sorry I caused so much distress to others – that is something I will have to hopefully try and live with.

I don’t believe after the concern and anxiety I caused to so many that I will ever be able to return to the forum.

Can someone from the SANE team please explain all this to all those involved and pass on my gratitude for their compassion, concerns and kind words throughout the time I have been part of the ‘forum family’.

Thank you and sorry again for the difficult position I put everyone in.

Zoe7

I do not want any responses from any of you. I just wanted to let you know exactly what has happened and let you know how truly sorry I am for hurting people I have come to think of as friends and family, and who I really care about.

Your support, advice and compassion are what make you all the wonderful people you are.

@utopia and @Former-Member I am so sorry that the trust you placed in me has now been broken because of my actions. I also felt that we had a stronger connection, especially over the last week, and you both helped me in ways I cannot even describe or explain. I was not pulling away from you two - just wanted to pull away from myself. I couldn't cope with my own feelings and no-one or nothing was actually going to be able to stop me at the time. It's now just another failure to add to my list of failures. I really don't know what else to say to you both but to reiterate my heartfelt 'sorry'.

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How could I forget my little funshine now @CheerBear

I have seen you around since you came back but I think you have probably gathered already that I have been struggling a lot lately. I have been trying to stick to my little corner here and just a couple of other threads but at times it has been really hard not to get 'drawn' in to other conversations or for 'issues' to be brought up here that I don't want to be involved in atm. So as a result I have jumped off pretty quickly at times to look after myself.

I am so very pleased to see you back - it hasn't been the same without you around. How are the little fish doing - any bike accidents?

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I've been noticing what's happening and can imagine how tricky it can get to work through. I think you're doing a great job with it all though and hope you're feeling supported with it from your friends here. I do actually feel very special that you've saved my spot. I am mindful that it might get overwhelming here sometimes, but do want you to know that I'm around too if you ever want to call out, even if it's to help by chatting through tricky things with other people somewhere else for a while. It's hard to speak without speaking if you know what i mean.

No bike accidents thankfully lol. Pva glue spillage by the bucketload yesterday though haha. Little fish are a little like littlw piranhas at the moment. So they're happily away somewhere else in great hands for now.

Thanks for having me back too @Zoe7 - it means a lot 💗

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Hey @CheerBear - we don't forget 'family' here

It has become quite overwhelming and I do feel like I haven't had any 'space' for a while here. It makes it really hard to reach out for support myself when 'the space' is being constantly 'overtaken' - if you get what I mean! We try to keep this thread as a 'safe' and fun thread - and one that I can reach out from if I need distractions. That hasn't been the case lately. Even when I have mentioned that I am just checking out some threads and not posting much it has become a little tricky - so most of the time it has been easier to just stay away. As you can imagine - this creates a whole new set of problems for me when I do need some support!!!! And the last couple of weeks have been hard enough for me without any extra pressures or things to deal with.

You are very perceptive @CheerBear - that doesn't surprise me but I do thank you for letting me know that you have noticed and that you think I am handling it ok - I have been very conscious of not putting anyone in a position that would upset them and that has had an impact on me - which actually really sucks.

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Walking on eggshells in your own safe place is the last thing you need I think @Zoe7. I envy people who are able to firmly state what is and isn't ok for them as I know that it's something I can struggle with because hurting people's feelings hurts me too. I was pinteresting again (i really have a problem haha) and found some really great ideas about how to say no. You may have already done this, but even googling 'gentle ways to set boundaries' or how to say no without hurting someone' might help. As I'm sure you know, it's hard to give when you're running on empty.

I'm getting very sleepy but I'm really glad I got to sneak in a zoe moment before bed.

Take care of you and hope you're able to feel more comfy again asap.

😘

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You really do have a problem @CheerBear lol Maybe you should have changed your name to pinterest instead of CheerBear

I am so happy to have been able to chat to you also - a zoe moment - that is adorable - made me smile

Hope you sleep well @CheerBear Look forward to our next chat...

Zoe

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I'm totally going to need to join a support group when I get back to the real world haha.

Night 💛

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Hello @Zoe7. I'm still up. Are you starting to get tired now? I'm going for 6 hours.

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I seriously doubt 6 hours will happen - maybe an hour at a time during the next 24 hours lol @utopia

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I'm on a winning streak - so I need you to get 6hours @Zoe7. Oh the ppressure. I think you need to tell me the sleep competition has finished now. Lol.
Thought I'd check on you before I go to sleep.
Was good to have a final giggle over MaFS. Thanks for doing that with me tonight.
You okay tonight?
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