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Am Not Coping

Am Not Coping

I am really not coping at the moment but this is entirely on ME!

This is a message for a few people on here @utopia @Former-Member @Faith-and-Hope @Former-Member

that I asked could be passed on but it seems that only part of it has been and I understand from the responses that have made it through my emails that I have caused untold distress for some people. I was not going to return because of what I felt I put people through but I especially wanted @utopia and @Former-Member to know that they were not wrong at the time and I was going through a real crisis period. You both held me together for longer than I could myself until the point where my own self-destructive thoughts overwhelmed me.

The entire message that I sent to SANE is below:

I have just viewed the multitude of emails and messages sent from forum members and members of the SANE team – as well as the text and voice message left on my phone.

I have not been able to communicate with anyone since the other night as I have been recovering from what ended up being an unsuccessful attempt to end the pain.

At the time I was in a very distressed state and I did want to stop the pain and all I seemed to achieve is to cause others pain and worry and that is the last thing I wanted to do – I just wanted to end mine and say goodbye to everyone beforehand so my future absence was explained. I should have realised that the message I posted would have concerned some people but I really was not in any state to think about the repercussions for others.

I am so sorry I caused so much distress to others – that is something I will have to hopefully try and live with.

I don’t believe after the concern and anxiety I caused to so many that I will ever be able to return to the forum.

Can someone from the SANE team please explain all this to all those involved and pass on my gratitude for their compassion, concerns and kind words throughout the time I have been part of the ‘forum family’.

Thank you and sorry again for the difficult position I put everyone in.

Zoe7

I do not want any responses from any of you. I just wanted to let you know exactly what has happened and let you know how truly sorry I am for hurting people I have come to think of as friends and family, and who I really care about.

Your support, advice and compassion are what make you all the wonderful people you are.

@utopia and @Former-Member I am so sorry that the trust you placed in me has now been broken because of my actions. I also felt that we had a stronger connection, especially over the last week, and you both helped me in ways I cannot even describe or explain. I was not pulling away from you two - just wanted to pull away from myself. I couldn't cope with my own feelings and no-one or nothing was actually going to be able to stop me at the time. It's now just another failure to add to my list of failures. I really don't know what else to say to you both but to reiterate my heartfelt 'sorry'.

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yes my butterfly @Zoe7

please dont ever feel unsafe on here @Zoe7 your more than welcome on here and your opinions are always wanted ALWAYS and we are ALWAYS here to support you too. i knowyour last session had a big impact and something went on here that had an impact but you can move forward from this

sending you lots of hugs @Zoe7

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my beautiful butterfly and i think the world of you @Zoe7

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@Former-Member Don't forget - I have three babies - Toby, Cat and Little Caterpillar

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A very scared and very confused little caterpillar @Zoe7

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Apparently @NikNik and @Former-Member don't know the story about how I got my little buddy Toby: so it must be 'Tory Time...

I had a fish tank in my classroom that had constant tiny little leaks - it was nearly 30 years old. I was forever fixing the leaks and decided one day that I finally needed to replace the tank. So I went to the pet shop to purchase another tank.

As soon as I walked in I saw these two tiny little balls of fluff in the window. I couldn't resist!

I had thought about getting a smalldog since I bought my house but never really thought that I would actually do it. I had 'mentioned' it to Cat a few times and she just gave me a stare and then turned her head.

I asked if I could see the two little fluffballs and sat on the floor waiting for them to be brought to me. Toby was the one that ran straight up to me and jump on my lap. I picked him up and he smiled his beautiful smile. Straight away I said I'd take him!!!!!!

So what was to be a $60 purchase became $600 - and I still didn't have a new fish tank lol

I think I shook my head the whole way home asking myself 'what have I done'!!!

He was so tiny and Cat thought he was a toy until he started to move. He came to work with me every day for the first three weeks - and I certainly didn't sleep for about the first 6 weeks.

I now describe him as 'the best fish tank ever' lol - and I don't even recognise what my life was before him.

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I don't have the answers @Zoe7. I wish more than anything I knew how to best help you, I kind of wish that for me. I think for me that at the moment I know I have to face my demons and try to stop running away from them. Some days that's seems doable and some days that seems impossible and I can't cope at all. I know some of the depth of your issues and it's not going to be easy. I know mine will take years to really overcome. I don't know if I'll make it either but I guess I know that I have to try. I've hit pretty much rock bottom a couple of times in the last few weeks. I might be way off the mark here but it seems like you are at rock bottom too, you have nothing more to lose by trying therapy. It can't get any worse therefore it could only get better. Sometimes I hate writing this to you because at some level I'm writing it to me too.
You will always have support here. I think it's just trying to let us back in. Be selective how and when you do. It takes time. Some days I get so caught up with this too. You know you are loved here and that this thread is nearly always safe. It's still much safer for you than other threads but sometimes mix ups happen and it doesn't feel that way but it is your safe place for now. Here is where your family finds and supports you.
I know you got tripped up by something very heavy and difficult and I'm so sorry you had to go through that. I hope with some more time that will ease. I don't really know what else to say about this.
I hope this isn't too heavy. I'm trying so hard to find the right things to say but I know I'll mess it up a bit. I'm thinking of you. Sending love and hugs 💜🤗
I'm going to head off for a bit now. Please be safe. Please keep your promise to me. 💜🤗

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And I have 2 wonderful , amazing sisters @Former-Member and @Zoe7, and I am sooo proud of you both

sooo big hugs my sisters

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im so sorry @Zoe7. My timing was horrible as always with the heavy post above.

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Any post from you @Former-Member is never bad timing - you often say exactly what I am feeling and I know you can relate to that feeling of being at 'rock bottom'.

I really need you to keep your promise to me to @Former-Member - together I feel like there is a little more hope to get through this. There is no easy way and I am trying to just keep to this thread and drop in to a couple of others for a quick visit. I don't read anything that I don't know where it has come from anymore - that is proving to be much safer for me - but there is still that apprehension there - and that is certainly causing some distress. I am reluctant to post alot also because of what happened and I am certainly not feeling as open or supportive as I was because of it. This is going to take time to (I hope) feel comfortable being who I used to be on here.

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@Zoe7. Home now. I do love the story of how you got Toby. He should feel lucky that you didn't name him tank or fish. Lol
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