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Am Not Coping

Am Not Coping

I am really not coping at the moment but this is entirely on ME!

This is a message for a few people on here @utopia @Former-Member @Faith-and-Hope @Former-Member

that I asked could be passed on but it seems that only part of it has been and I understand from the responses that have made it through my emails that I have caused untold distress for some people. I was not going to return because of what I felt I put people through but I especially wanted @utopia and @Former-Member to know that they were not wrong at the time and I was going through a real crisis period. You both held me together for longer than I could myself until the point where my own self-destructive thoughts overwhelmed me.

The entire message that I sent to SANE is below:

I have just viewed the multitude of emails and messages sent from forum members and members of the SANE team – as well as the text and voice message left on my phone.

I have not been able to communicate with anyone since the other night as I have been recovering from what ended up being an unsuccessful attempt to end the pain.

At the time I was in a very distressed state and I did want to stop the pain and all I seemed to achieve is to cause others pain and worry and that is the last thing I wanted to do – I just wanted to end mine and say goodbye to everyone beforehand so my future absence was explained. I should have realised that the message I posted would have concerned some people but I really was not in any state to think about the repercussions for others.

I am so sorry I caused so much distress to others – that is something I will have to hopefully try and live with.

I don’t believe after the concern and anxiety I caused to so many that I will ever be able to return to the forum.

Can someone from the SANE team please explain all this to all those involved and pass on my gratitude for their compassion, concerns and kind words throughout the time I have been part of the ‘forum family’.

Thank you and sorry again for the difficult position I put everyone in.

Zoe7

I do not want any responses from any of you. I just wanted to let you know exactly what has happened and let you know how truly sorry I am for hurting people I have come to think of as friends and family, and who I really care about.

Your support, advice and compassion are what make you all the wonderful people you are.

@utopia and @Former-Member I am so sorry that the trust you placed in me has now been broken because of my actions. I also felt that we had a stronger connection, especially over the last week, and you both helped me in ways I cannot even describe or explain. I was not pulling away from you two - just wanted to pull away from myself. I couldn't cope with my own feelings and no-one or nothing was actually going to be able to stop me at the time. It's now just another failure to add to my list of failures. I really don't know what else to say to you both but to reiterate my heartfelt 'sorry'.

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Hoping for you and your sisters sake that it is only a slipped disc @Zoe7 It is hard to know what to do in these circumstances, but you are there to support her hun, that is all you can do. I am sure your sister knows that your thoughts are with her and her cat.

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Sometimes I can work out what the nightmares are connected to. It's usually someone trying to chase me, or attack me. Often I'm lost in my dreams.
They seem so real and it's exhausting.

Can't think right now. Might come back later.
I hope you're having a good rest.
And hoping for quick recovery for your sister's cat. And of course hoping Cat is ok too. 🥰

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Yes she does know that @Snowie and I am trying to remian positive for her. The vet has said if he presented today as he is with no other issues beforehand then she would think it is the disc but with his recent history of the virus he has it could be an acceleration of that - if that is the case there is nothing they can do. Hoping, hoping, hoping...

The one good thing is they have taken him to my vet as that is the only place with the ct machine and my vet is doing the scan so I know she will not miss anything.

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@Former-Member Those type of dreams feel very real and are very scary so I can imagine how much they are messing with your thoughts. Do you have a routine you go through when you have them? I always get up so I can find my bearings and know I am somewhere safe.

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I'm still here lol @Zoe7

Yes, I force myself to get up for a bit, otherwise I go straight back into the dream. It's terrifying. I feel myself fighting back. But, I won't go on about it. It's ok.
I don't want to trigger you.

Just did a big food shop. 🥺😩

I battled with my thoughts, will I, won't I, go to the bottle shop. I resisted and didn't go. I'm so relieved.
I've been in self destructive mode since last year. 4 visits to emergency by ambulance this year. 😬
My health has deteriorated alot.
I really need to be strong/determined.

💖💞🤗 hugs to what's going on with your sister etc.

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Not triggering at all @Former-Member I deal with my nightmares pretty well these days - know what works and what doesn't and can (for the most part) resist the urge to SH - which is a major step forward. I do get up, turn on lights, hug Tobes and usually turn the tv on so there is background noise then go back to sleep on the couch ...that is my safe place. I used to cower in the corner, shake and cry but that very, very rarely happens now. It is, for me, about knowing what helps and doing that as quick as possible before the fear takes over completely.

I think you have done an amazing job steering away from the bottleshop - what a wonderful sense of relief and willpower you must be feeling - well done Hon - that is massive

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Trying to catch up @Zoe7 before I leave work to head home. ❤️💞❣️

So much... ☹️

Sending love

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Get home safely Hon - no need to catch up I will fill you in when I know more @Anastasia

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Thankyou @Zoe7 It's a daily struggle. 😩😢

It means alot to me to have support from you and others here. Much appreciated. ❤️🥰

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It may be a daily struggle @Former-Member but you are winning Hon and should be super proud of yourself. It takes a lot to break habits and have enough strength and resilience to stay to that path - which you are doing and that is inspirational

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