Am Not Coping

Hi @Pepsimax

Glad you had a good day. Lunch with the family sounds like a nice moment.

Yes it was good @Snowie @Zoe7

I can for a little while Hon but will be going to bed early tonight. What is happening for you @Boonana ?

Happy to listen @Boonana Tell me what is going on Hon.

Life is tough at times @Boonana There is no rule book and we just have to do the best we can but that does not mean that we cannot strive to be better. Independence is not always something that comes naturally to us - it takes a lot of learning about ourselves and experiencing things. You are young Hon and have so much in front of you - so many experiences to have and so much to learn. See that as a good thing as you can be whatever you want to be and do whatever you want to do. You have goals and ambitions and that is something that many your age still struggle with.

Self-doubt is something many of us here struggle with but with help from your counsellor you can work on that. As for not getting over problems as quickly as other people - I think you would be surprised the length of time that takes for many of us here. ...and that also takes practice and knowledge - knowledge of ways you can deal with your emotions and thoughts and a lot of practice to put that knowledge in place. This is where I see it is important to have a psychologist that you can see to work through some of these things. It is great that you have a counsellor that you can talk to online but having someone you see regularly to work on this stuff is important too. I would strongly advise you to look for a GP that you can get a referral to a psychologist in your area - or alternatively the psych at your school. You cannot do this all on your own - you need that support and you deserve that support.

Sometimes @Boonana we all need a little validation that how we are feeling is okay. We can never be happy or on top of things all the time but we can work towards knowing when that is the case and either finding strategies to deal with it or to learn to let it pass in it's own time, That is often the hardest to do but knowing for ourselves that it is okay to have those down moments and that things will eventually get better is suoer important. Life is nt all roses and rainbows but when we can find those moments of joy in each day it certainly makes it much better. Often we hang onto the negatives in our lives because that is what we have always done or those are the experiences we have had - but finding that little bit of light in each day is super important. I find that each day with my fur babies - just as I susoect you do with Eddie - enjoy those moments - be in that moment and let it fill you with happiness because you deserve that.

I have my little fluffball asleep next to me right now and just looking at him makes me smile - those are the little moments that I hang onto. I also vacuumed today and whilst that may seem to be an everyday chore - it has taken me weeks to actually do it - so to see the house clean is another positive for me today. Those moments do not have to be big - infact the smaller things can often give us the most pleasure - find those moments for yourself and let yourself enjoy them when they come.