Am Not Coping

Just as you pick it up in me @Faith-and-Hope

We totally understand how much you are dealing with @Former-Member and so any absence from the forums - while we still worry - is also very much understood. It is a good thing that you have some idea of when hubby will be going into hospital - things are moving quicker than you expected. I hope - for you sake and his - that it is not needed any sooner in an emergency capacity but if it is I have no doubt you will deal with it. You are stronger than you know Hon

@Faith-and-Hope @Former-Member @BryanaCamp Time for Zoe to get her butt into gear, have a shower and head to the panel meeting. A bit nervous about it if truth be told but I am sure my opinions will be just as value as the others on the panel otherwise I would not have been asked to do it. How's that for being positive

Catch you all later and thank you for being here and being such wonderful supports

ps: goodluck in your session @Faith-and-Hope will be here for you later if you need

Good afternoon wonderful people 🙂

Just stopping by (trying super hard not to interrupt!). It is pretty awesome to the amazing support that's evident here for @Zoe7. Thank you all for contributing, and thank you for being so open honest in your journey @Zoe7

Some of you may have seen a community discussion that happened a while back here looking at long extended threads and the most suited area of the forum for them. The SANE Community came to the conclusion that when threads become quite long and have moved off from the original post area or have become slightly journal-esque, that we would look to move it over to ‘Our Stories’ area.

While this post started off well suited for this area, it is now a bit more suited for the area of 'Our Stories' to continue chatting through. This will help new members navigating through forum threads as well. Please do continue your conversation and this will be moved shortly into ‘Our stories’

Your timing sucks @Former-Member

Thanks for he “heads up” @Former-Member ....,

Awww @Zoe7 ..... not ready for the topic area shift ? Can we email about that @Former-Member ?

I dont understand @Former-Member what difference shifting threads to another section makes ... if any? Clearly the prospect has upset @Zoe7 and I think there have been members on other threads who have expressed their disappointment also.

Can you explain to me what changes are affected by shifting the section upon which the individual threads are located? For example I have a personal "My Story" thread in the LE section of the forums, and a "Something's Not Right" thread in the Carers section. I havent seen much difference in how either are treated. Is there a difference in 'visibility', 'accessability' or something between the sections? Sorry I'm just confused by the apparent disapppointment regarding the transfer of threads. @Faith-and-Hope

Sherry ❓ 😕

Hi @Former-Member

Thanks for asking the question. It sounds like it needs to be aired ...... and I will have a go at explaining what I understand it it be about.

I am also conscious that is a sensitive situation, so I will try to be as non-klutzy as I can with it, with a big request for understanding if I don’t make a good job of it.

Now that the forums have grown in size as much as they have, there are a lot of new people, and most of them (us) arrive on the forums in distress. When they come to a topic heading that says Something’s Not Right ..... taking my main thread on the Carers side for example, and find that it doesn’t appear to be talking about what the title suggests (eating disorder), it is confusing and difficult to navigate.

Of course that is only one side of the picture.

A discussion thread was raised to talk about this a little and try to work out a way to decide whether a restructuring of the threads / discussion topic areas was required. This sounded too disruptive ..... although any change here, by its nature, is disruptive.

It seemed more sensible, and less disruptive to look at the current topic areas and see whether some threads can be moved, and the most obvious ones are the ones that opened as a distress thread, but have become a little more mixed and sometimes social, with time and healing and / or progress and changing circumstances with time.

The topic area they have been ear-marked to be relocated to is Our Stories, however I am hearing that the message hasn’t spread widely enough, and that forumites have been taken off-guard.

i have put forward a request that the change-over is approached a little more tenderly, and yes ..... the timing for @Zoe7 with Rickpool’s departure just announced is very sucky.

It also needs a sense of co-operation at the actual point of change, so that it’s an agreed change of location thread-by-thread, in my opinion, so it doesn’t feel like the carpet has been lifted under our feet.

Changes that seem small for some are very not-small for others.

@Former-Member @Former-Member

hi @Faith-and-Hope it is sad you're losing a home, you're so generous and energetic with your maternal energies I am sure it would have been a wonderful, warm place full of loving interactions. A home is so much more than a house. I still remember the homes of both my grandma's, so many loving, happy times I spent with those wonderful women. Sometimes I go thru each room in my mind or a detail - the pattern of the curtain, the chair I used to sit in, the vase she used to use when I brought her flowers. They are vivid & rich memoreis for me. It is a great idea to protect your memories with photos.