Am Not Coping

very true my sister @Zoe7

There is nothing you can say that will help with such sad news @Former-Member - all you can do is be there for him Hon.

Hi @Pepsimax Nice to see you popping in

Thanks @Shaz51 So sad.

@Zoe7 Be there for them? I cannot even do that! Im 7 hours away. And no foreseeable chance of getting away from here while hubby is so unwell and unstable.

Feel for you @Former-Member such sad news

Whilst you can't physically be there for them you can listen when your brother calls @Former-Member but ultimately they have to deal with this sad news in their own way too.

I know you would be straight there if you could but that is not possible. It is also important that you look after yourself in all this too. Even though this has not happened to you it will still have an impact on you - so being mindful of that is important - don't bottle up your own emotions Hon and reach out to us and your psych for support.

Can you send them a beautiful card and something small and personal @Former-Member ? They will need acknowledgement and tokens of comfort in their grief, and these are things you can do from far away. I recently lost a cousin. I phoned her mum as soon as I heard, and I have a small photo frame to send her, now that it has been a couple of months.

Its so sad, and I am feeling for all of you. Teary night here anyway ...... lots of loves coming your way.

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Oh @Former-Member that’s really Sad news.

I’m sorry ❤️

Could you send a card and flowers. It is hard to know what to write.

I hope you can sleep yonight snd your headache goes away.

Take care ❤️❤️

@Former-Member

Sending and receiving a card can help. Just an opening and acknowledgment.

@Faith-and-Hope @Appleblossom @BlueBay @Pepsimax @Former-Member @Sans911 @Snowie @Teej @CheerBear @eth @Adge @MDT @TAB @Shaz51 and all following along...

Had a somewhat difficult start to DBT today - things brought up that I had to think about for a while. It was all centred around how I feel about people generally and the impact my childhood and trauma have had on my beliefs. I did talk more with my pdoc about it all this afternoon and will bring it up with my psych when I see her in a couple of weeks. I also talked about the security of being in my little bubble at home with my fur babies and that I really don't want to branch outside that bubble too much - especially right now. Work, DBT and appointments are enough for me to deal with - I know I am getting through the days a little better and don't feel quite so tired but am always glad to be home at the end of the day and all I can really manage is rest - throwing anything else into that mix would exhaust me - that I am very conscious of. Today I feel exhausted and could quite easily go to bed now and sleep until tomorrow.

My pdoc and I also talked about me waking up during the night and the dreams I am having - they are quite vivid but not traumatic as such - they do shake me up a bit though. We have decided to stick with the current meds and dosages and re-assess next appointment (which will be in the holidays) - so if we are going to change anything again I will have a little time to get used to the change. I am reluctant to increase one of my night meds again but if the waking through the night continues we may need to - that I know will make me even more tired in the morning and is not ideal coming into the colder months when mornings are hard anyway.

I really need to do a few things at home this afternoon but the tiredness factor is prominent. I will try after a little rest and only do the couple of things that cannot wait until the weekend. I may even feel a little better once those couple of things are done. It is definitely going to be an early night for me so I can be rested enough to get through the next couple of days at work.

I hope everyone else has had an okay day - some of you I know are doing it tough at the moment and my thoughts are with you all. Love and hugs to you all in however your day has gone