Am Not Coping

You have so much resilience and compassion @Shaz51 I am often amazed at how well you take care of Mr Shaz and your Mum and still manage to be so bright and cheerful on here too. It is okay for you to unload on us too if you need - you give so much support to others on here and ask for nothing in return - and you deserve to be supported too. I know it is not in your nature to ask for that support but please know you have it if and when you need it my sister

Afternoon my sisters

Afternoon @oceangirl

and hello behind the support button @Faith-and-Hope

thank you my sister @Zoe7 and I will and I have many a time when I first came here , I was a mess , I have shared lots of things in the last 3 and a half years , I have shared a lot more things in the past and on the carers side

I see you have been here for 2 years and I have seen you grow over that time , you are a wonderful friend

I can see why Mr shaz does not want to work anymore , we are on our first day of the holiday and just watching him pottering around doing things and now has the music on -- just want to tell him ( no work ever)

I write a lot in the ups and downs of my husband`s MI

ha ha I am in the bad books with my sil but that is nothing new

thank you sister , tomorrow might be the day xoxo

I don't get around the forum on the carer's side much but it is great that you have that support there @Shaz51 It is also wonderful how you support others on this side of the forum - you are like a little butterfly yourself - fluttering around and spreading colour and joy wherever you go - I so love and admire that about you - and I don't think we tell you enough how valuable your contributions are here. Love having you as my forum sister Hon

ha ha like someone said I fly all over the forumland @Zoe7

thank you sister , Mum always said that I looked after everyone else first , trying hard to put in some self care for me , finding the balance is hard , not learning too fast my @Zoe7

maybe I will get there one day xx

It is super hard sometimes to find that balance @Shaz51 but we need to find it somehow to keep on going. I have found a new love for art again since being on here and that is something that helps me. It not only relaxes me but I love being able to create something unique and beautiful that I can also be proud of. I also spend cuddle time with Toby and just be in that moment at least once a day - there are plenty of days it is more but mindfully cuddling him helps me - especially when anxious. I know when I go back to work that it will be harder to find that balance so putting things in place now is imperative to transfer them into the busier work times. It is all a learning process still though and we need to continue to re-asses how we are going with self-care in order to find that balance.

That is why I think @Faith-and-Hope who is with us right now , getting back to arts is great

My mum is encouraging me to get back to my gardens and arts and crafts @Zoe7, It is soo important to our well being , have to try harder and plan more xx

that is when I miss my Tara

Yes you certainly would miss your Tara @Shaz51 - don't know what I would do without Toby 🐶😍

It would be great if you could get back to your art and crafts - balancing that with work and looking after Mr Shaz would be good for you ...and I would love to see what you produce just as I'm sure our @Faith-and-Hope would. Isn't it nice having our forum sister here with us behind that support button - gives me a little heartlift knowing she is with us

Isn't it nice having our forum sister here with us behind that support button - gives me a little heartlift knowing she is with us -- It is lovely @Zoe7 , sure is

ha ha wait until our sister @Faith-and-Hope comes back , hope she is writting everything down , I want to know every little details