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Am Not Coping

Am Not Coping

I am really not coping at the moment but this is entirely on ME!

This is a message for a few people on here @utopia @Former-Member @Faith-and-Hope @Former-Member

that I asked could be passed on but it seems that only part of it has been and I understand from the responses that have made it through my emails that I have caused untold distress for some people. I was not going to return because of what I felt I put people through but I especially wanted @utopia and @Former-Member to know that they were not wrong at the time and I was going through a real crisis period. You both held me together for longer than I could myself until the point where my own self-destructive thoughts overwhelmed me.

The entire message that I sent to SANE is below:

I have just viewed the multitude of emails and messages sent from forum members and members of the SANE team – as well as the text and voice message left on my phone.

I have not been able to communicate with anyone since the other night as I have been recovering from what ended up being an unsuccessful attempt to end the pain.

At the time I was in a very distressed state and I did want to stop the pain and all I seemed to achieve is to cause others pain and worry and that is the last thing I wanted to do – I just wanted to end mine and say goodbye to everyone beforehand so my future absence was explained. I should have realised that the message I posted would have concerned some people but I really was not in any state to think about the repercussions for others.

I am so sorry I caused so much distress to others – that is something I will have to hopefully try and live with.

I don’t believe after the concern and anxiety I caused to so many that I will ever be able to return to the forum.

Can someone from the SANE team please explain all this to all those involved and pass on my gratitude for their compassion, concerns and kind words throughout the time I have been part of the ‘forum family’.

Thank you and sorry again for the difficult position I put everyone in.

Zoe7

I do not want any responses from any of you. I just wanted to let you know exactly what has happened and let you know how truly sorry I am for hurting people I have come to think of as friends and family, and who I really care about.

Your support, advice and compassion are what make you all the wonderful people you are.

@utopia and @Former-Member I am so sorry that the trust you placed in me has now been broken because of my actions. I also felt that we had a stronger connection, especially over the last week, and you both helped me in ways I cannot even describe or explain. I was not pulling away from you two - just wanted to pull away from myself. I couldn't cope with my own feelings and no-one or nothing was actually going to be able to stop me at the time. It's now just another failure to add to my list of failures. I really don't know what else to say to you both but to reiterate my heartfelt 'sorry'.

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So hard sometimes @Zoe7 😔 Little bit by little bit as you do and are doing right now, is how. With you with lots of others too ❤

I'm doing well thanks and have had a much better week this week. Middle has one more week with their cast. We've had a couple of oopsies (a flying fox one is the latest) because they insist on doing all the things one handed. Seriously this kid learns the hard way! It's dirty and all taped up where it's been wet and crunched and picked at so we're counting down the days until it's off now!

Any sport on that you're interested in this weekend?

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That daredevil middle needs to join the circus - sounds like it would be right up their alley lol @CheerBear

There are a couple of games of footy on this weekend that I am interested in watching - just need to get to the weekend first. I know I am being really negative right now but life is really hard today. I don't even feel like watching tv - just waiting for meds to kick in so I can sleep. Tomorrow is another day and I have to go out tomorrow night to a dinner - I was looking forward to it but not so much now

It is lovely to hear that you have had an okay week and are doing much better - it is hearing things like that today that have kept me going - so thank you CB and thank you for being you Hon

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❤️🦋💕 Hour by hour Hon .:... here with you....

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@Faith-and-Hope

Tell me about your day - that always gives me a lift

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I think sometimes this home of ours is already a circus @Zoe7. Middle is probably the ringmaster though 😉

It's so understandable that you're in a tough (understatement I'm thinking) headspace. It's so hard to see tomorrows when todays are the way this one is for you. Hearing you and getting it.

Thanks for your kind words. You bring so much good Zoe by being you. Really wish things were working out better for you than they are right now.

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I will always have an image now of middle being a ringmaster @CheerBear (with a cast on lol) Seems like the middle child syndrome doesn't apply to them!

I know that waiting around is not helping CB - I need to wait to see my GP on Monday and then send off the letters to HR together - I don't see the point in sending one now and another one on Monday ...and it makes it doubly hard because I need to go to my sister's to scan them in. Maybe tomorrow I will just have to go out and buy another printer/scanner - I know I can't afford it - especially now that returning to work seems impossible. This has really gotten to me CB - it shouldn't be this hard! I wanted to get back to work and was trying to get things in place so I could - would someone that has had a physical illness be treated this way - I suspect not!

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I know it isn't the same @Zoe7 but in a way I can relate to the struggles you're having with this one. For what seems like ages now I've been trying to reach a place where I could return to finish the very tiny amount of my degree I had left and maybe one day get back to my goals and dreams. I tried so hard to find a way that would be flexible enough to work around and nothing was giving. I kept getting up and trying, as you do and have been doing, and it was exhausting and crushing each time I took a tumble down. I can even relate to your scanner issues - I had so much paperwork when I reached the decision to apply for the c-link thing I news to and my printer ran out of ink at the same time the shops stopped stocking the one I needed. I remember the day I went to find that bl%^#y ink. I walked around the shops in tears thinking how it really shouldn't be this hard. At the time I thought how much I really didn't want ink to be the thing that tipped me over the edge, but how close it was feeling.

(Would love to end this story on a happy note but I'm not there yet - really I just wanted to say that I get it).

This is a really big setback for you and I can see how stuck you'd be feeling right now. I have seen you do some really big and brave things this year and make great progress with them. I'm thinking that those things might feel really hard to see and remember right now but they're still there and you've done them. You've got this one too Zoe.

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still around sister @Zoe7

flying around forumland @CheerBear, @Snowie, @MDT, @Faith-and-Hope

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oh @CheerBear the tears have started

I can so relate to that feeling that the smallest thing like ink can tip the scales - it is often the small things that do that.

You are right - I have done some pretty big things this year and I though doing all those would help me get back to work - so you can see that even those things don't mean much to me today - it is as if they were a waste of time because now I am back fighting with the darkness again.

Maybe I get through tonight - then what will tomorrow bring with it - very negative in my mindset right now and super struggling to even care.

I am resisting the temptation to help me sleep quicker though - need to hold out until the meds work because I am in that dangerous position where I just don't care.

Even Toby has left my side for now - he is probably just going to the toilet - poor little fella doesn't know what is going on today.

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It is always so lovely to see you fly in @Shaz51. How are you doing? ...and how is your mum?

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