Am Not Coping

That’s what I imagine @Zoe7, that some of it is a loss of confidence that will return ....

Hi @Faith-and-Hope

Yes @Zoe7 I seem to attract annoying ones who talk too much, in any group setting (I'm a magnet for them).

I wish I could charge a fee for my listening ears, because they're worn out quite frequently...

I'm definitely with you on that one - if you're there for DBT, then DBT discussion it needs to be.

Apart from some friendly "rapport-building" perhaps. Otherwise it can be frustrating.

Yes, I'm very achy at the moment.

Adge

The aching is not good @Adge - makes you not want to do anything because you find it hard to move anyway. I feel for you

I think every group has those annoying people that like the sound of their own voice Adge - I know they have their own issues but they don't seem to listen to what is being said by others and that annoys me. I tend to switch off when they start to talk now which isn't ideal but it is how I deal with it.

I can relate to your loss of confidence very much @Zoe7 Hopefully it will return, when you're in the role, refreshing your skills (if necessary).

I've lost a huge amount of confidence in my horticultural & plant identification knowledge - in the 6 years that I've been out of it.

Even though I have a Grad Dip Sc in Environmental Management, & I worked in Horticulture (Nursery & Gardens) for 12 years.

Plants & nature is my passion by the way.

Adge

You will have to check in to this thread as I develop my potted garden for @Faith-and-Hope and I then @Adge - it will be all herbs but if I can get my garden patch sorted then I may branch out (like what I did there lol) into veggies also.

I've always wanted to be able to switch off, but I cannot @Zoe7

Maybe not ideal, but would save some energy.

Otherwise I feel utterly drained, can't easily recharge - that doesn't help me or anyone.

Yes, a courteous response that acknowledges what you've said is reasonable to expect (want).

Many people don't seem to do that, they just talk right over the top of you (me), as if I'm not there.

Yes aching so much is de-motivating.

I still went to yoga class early yesterday morning, but felt very wobbly...

Adge

wow @Adge - yoga class - the thought of that makes me wobbly lol

We have a larger group of 8 and most participants are really good at listening it is just one or two that don't seem to! I found it really hard to deal with at the beginning but now I more or less close my ears when they begin talking. I have a stress ball that gets squeezed a lot when they start lol

I'm a shrubs, trees & groundcovers person @Zoe7

I never grew vegies much. Or herbs much either.

Herbs are great. Some are very drought-hardy, like Rosemary.

I love Rosemary & Lavender, I have a large pink-flowered rosemary, out the front (usual one is blue).

Adge

I used to have a very large rosemary plant @Adge but it was too woody to be able to be cut back properly and it over took the space it was in - I will be planting a new one in my potted garden. I have a couple of lavendar plants in already. One of my favourite plants is my lemon tree - it bares fruit all year round

A stress ball @Zoe7 I forgot about those, that's a good idea.

I actually have two stress balls, but I've never used them.

I've never thought of taking them to a meeting (for support)...

Adge