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Am Not Coping

Am Not Coping

I am really not coping at the moment but this is entirely on ME!

This is a message for a few people on here @utopia @Former-Member @Faith-and-Hope @Former-Member

that I asked could be passed on but it seems that only part of it has been and I understand from the responses that have made it through my emails that I have caused untold distress for some people. I was not going to return because of what I felt I put people through but I especially wanted @utopia and @Former-Member to know that they were not wrong at the time and I was going through a real crisis period. You both held me together for longer than I could myself until the point where my own self-destructive thoughts overwhelmed me.

The entire message that I sent to SANE is below:

I have just viewed the multitude of emails and messages sent from forum members and members of the SANE team – as well as the text and voice message left on my phone.

I have not been able to communicate with anyone since the other night as I have been recovering from what ended up being an unsuccessful attempt to end the pain.

At the time I was in a very distressed state and I did want to stop the pain and all I seemed to achieve is to cause others pain and worry and that is the last thing I wanted to do – I just wanted to end mine and say goodbye to everyone beforehand so my future absence was explained. I should have realised that the message I posted would have concerned some people but I really was not in any state to think about the repercussions for others.

I am so sorry I caused so much distress to others – that is something I will have to hopefully try and live with.

I don’t believe after the concern and anxiety I caused to so many that I will ever be able to return to the forum.

Can someone from the SANE team please explain all this to all those involved and pass on my gratitude for their compassion, concerns and kind words throughout the time I have been part of the ‘forum family’.

Thank you and sorry again for the difficult position I put everyone in.

Zoe7

I do not want any responses from any of you. I just wanted to let you know exactly what has happened and let you know how truly sorry I am for hurting people I have come to think of as friends and family, and who I really care about.

Your support, advice and compassion are what make you all the wonderful people you are.

@utopia and @Former-Member I am so sorry that the trust you placed in me has now been broken because of my actions. I also felt that we had a stronger connection, especially over the last week, and you both helped me in ways I cannot even describe or explain. I was not pulling away from you two - just wanted to pull away from myself. I couldn't cope with my own feelings and no-one or nothing was actually going to be able to stop me at the time. It's now just another failure to add to my list of failures. I really don't know what else to say to you both but to reiterate my heartfelt 'sorry'.

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These are beautiful @Faith-and-Hope!!

Hi @Zoe7

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Thanks for clearing them quickly @Former-Member ..... and lovely to see you .... 💕

Hi @oceangirl 💗

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@Zoe7,just got inside had a tonne of wood delivered,been out stacking it.

The interview was probably the best one I've had,two women who were "normal",and weren't intimidating.I said I worried if I could do the job and they said all you can do is try.I won't know until head office rings or sends me a reject email.

My mother went to the doctor this afternoon before I got there for CT results. She's low that my interview went OK because the doctor is ready to write the paperwork for me as a carer.Either way I'm off job search but told her I would like the job.Dont know @Zoe7.The CT shows compressed disc and her trunk (spine)is not straight,it's protruding outwards.If I knocked back this job,she only needs another bad fall and she needs the nursing home,and I'm old and unemployed.I have a HECS debt from doing a year or more of psychology /social welfare when I was young,and I have lived a life with her limiting my potential from childhood.Plus her confusion and memory causes me anxiety.I don't know what's going to happen.

Plus when I got vegetables for stirfry had the drongo ex staring at me,who contributed to my emotional distress last Friday night and high anxiety level through discovering he was engaged and not genuine.

I walked to the self serve asap to escape him .Somehow I fell in love with the p****.Did feel good to walk away but.

Thanks @Zoe7,tag the others so I don't have to repeat @Faith-and-Hope , @Appleblossum @Shaz51, @lapses , @Sans911, @outlander @soul@ and everyone else

Thanks for being there for me.I may not get it,but I did OK.

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Yay @Former-Member .... 🎉

Whether you get it or not, I am so glad to hear you came away feeling okay ....

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And thanks for the support today,I did feel your strength @Faith-and-Hope,and @Zoe7.I don't know if I'd be alive if I didn't get on this site last November with my isolation from life due to depression and anxiety.

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@Former-Member I'm so pleased you posted, as I've been wondering for ages how things might have gone, how you were feeling. I'm pleased to hear it went well, and sounds like you were honest, which the women probably appreciated. And really, if you get the job, you won't know how it'll go until you try.

Although I'm sure you care a great deal about your mother, it seems caring for her is limiting your life. And as you say, causing a lot of friction & anxiety. It's always difficult when our parents get old and unwell or difficult to manage. There's often lots of feelings of frustration, anger, guilt and shame.

You have me a little giggle with the explanation of your ex. Hold your head high, girl. You matter and you are worthwhile.

I'm really pleased again about the interview, and you should be proud of yourself. Whether you get the job or not, it sounds like you impressed the interview. I'll be thinking of a positive outcome for you.

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@Former-Member .... 💜💜💜

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@Zoe7. So are you coming off some meds to then go on new meds? That is hard. I've only done it in hospital twice. But once the new meds start working it's such a relief. ♥♥

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Thanks @Sans911,
Until 2012,work was my life,was known to never miss a day.zI may not get it but it went ok.
Many reasons why I don't want to be a carer including my mother contributing to my breakdown through making out I was abusing her years ago,and still does in a argument.I read symptoms on the dementia site which she fits including making out I said something I never said.Plus she's always been self centred and never had respect for my life,not allowing me my space.Don't know @Sans,911.
The ex, @Sans 911,I believe he has three personalities,a history of domestic violence and be the child you never had.It did feel good but I was upset at the same time because I feel violated by him.Just glad I never got intimate with him.Something was never quite right with him.
Thanks @Sans,911.💖

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