Am Not Coping

Morning @Faith-and-Hope

I hope you are settling in ok and there is some peace in your life for the moment

I am finding myself in a difficult position at present - not one I wish to go into too much detail about here but wanting to let you know that I will be significantly 'scaling down' my presence on the forum for now. I will continue to be here for you (always) but my interaction with other members and on other threads will be minimal (apart from the DBT thread with little turtle and Cheerbear).

This is a decision I have had to make as I have become too affected over the last few days by 'things' on the forum. I am finding it more and more difficult to seek support here (and everywhere) and even more so to provide that support to others. I have expectations of myself (and those that others have of me also) that I cannot possibly meet - so I am hoping that by doing this some of those pressures can be lifted somewhat.

I never meant to put anyone in a position where they felt they could not continue their interactions with other members here but it does seem that that may have been the case inadvertently. This does not sit well with me - infact it is the very last thing I would want for anyone - but it seems that that is what has happened. I am truly at a loss to see how this has unfolded and that is another reason I need to step back - if my 'judgement' or reading of a situation(s) is so clouded then maybe I need to re-assess exactly what I can or cannot bring to the forum.

Sometimes we try to be everything to everyone and we fall so very short on all fronts. This is where I am currently sitting and it really is not a comfortable seat!

As I said - I will be here for you my beautiful friend, but to everyone else - I am sorry but I just cannot expose myself, in my present state, or be relied on in any way, to be able to support or reply to anyone else. This may change over time but for now - as hard as it is - this is the only way I can see that I can protect myself from further pain or hurt. I really hope everyone understands

Take care everyone...you will all be in my thoughts...

Zoe

Hi @Zoe7

I think that is sensible - I have done the same and it makes it easier for me to handle - I was becoming overwhelmed too - and there are times when it all gets too much

There is no need to elaborate but thanks for letting us know - I had noticed that you were supporting other people a lot lately and saying very little about yourself - so yes - you must take care of yourself first

I wish you the best with a rest - rest your wings and rest your soul - attend to your own needs

Dec

Hi @Zoe7 .... 💚💐🦋💕💜💐🐬💕 ......

The situation we have worked around for the last 24 hours or so has rattled everyone involved, as you said yesterday, and reverberations do take some time to settle back down again, particularly when they are jangling on already raw nerves .....

I understand, but I am sad about it also .... and will remain here waiting for you to recover my sweet friend. Please take very good care of yourself, and my niece and nephew, while you are resting and restoring .....

my ligament is playing up this morning ..... grrrr .... so no long walk for me as planned .... will have to find a more local coffee .... (like, Tasmania 😏 ?)

As I said @Faith-and-Hope I will be here for you - that will not change (unless you are on a plane to our beach )

No long walks - oh dear - that is your daily salvation Hon - I hope you can find a coffee shop close by for the respite you need each day

Did you manage to 'throw' enough stuff into your suitcase in the end? I hope so otherwise youmay just have to go shopping

I had a huge day yesterday and today is going to be even longer - so more exhaustion on top of exhaustion. One tiny baby step at a time today!

With you in spirit @Zoe7 .....

@Faith-and-Hope

Hello @Zoe7

not coping.

iv tryed listening to music, have a shower, reading, watching tv, everything.

theres nothing else to do.

nothing works