LottyContributor
Son with mental health issues
Hi, I have a 39 year-old son with mental health issues who has lived with me for the last 9 years. He has been on a DSP for the last 4 years. He has severe social anxiety among meeting criteria of Schizoid personality disorder, Agoraphobia, major Depressive disorder & OCD tendencies. He also now has stage 3 Melanoma which has been removed & is now on immunotherapy. As I have stated he lives with me in an upstairs bedroom where he stays basically 24/7. He has an ensuite, air-con, Foxtel & WiFi. I clean his room, wash his clothes, & generally organise evening meals. He gives me $300 a ft/night. He watches sport on Foxtel 24/7 & tries to win money by betting. At one stage he won $20,000 & spent it in 3 weeks by gambling. He receives a DSP every fortnight, pays rent & spends the rest on drinking & gambling over the next couple of days. I have tried on many occasions to try to get him motivated to move out, but he gets very agitated which can turn into hostility very quickly so then I just leave it alone. He is on the Public Housing list which is not going to happen overnight, hasn't enough money to rent generally & will not live with others in a rental situation. I have been told by my Social Worker cousin that I am an enabler of which I knew & I should see a psychologist to discuss why I have a need to make life so comfortable for him. I also have a partner of 3 years & he stays at my house most weekends. My son hides in his room when he is, so feel obligated to take up meals & go out so he can come downstairs & eat etc. As you can imagine this has affected my mental health & wish more than anything that he was living elsewhere. Would appreciate any feedback. Cheers Lotty.