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I don't know how to help my husband's depression
Hi, I'm new here. I have a husband who has depression/anxity/paranoia as long as I know him. We have been together for almost 20years. He was already taking anti-depression medicine when I met him and he told me about it but he seemed happy and cheerful charactor so it didn't bother me at all. But now we have a life together like becoming parents, moved home, bought family house, experienced high and low together. We've been orvecame everything together but it's been really hard for both of us particurally last 18months or so. He had really bad experience with people during his solo holiday and it made him distrust of other people. It affected his so much and he's sometimes too scared to going outside like even shopping etc so he's been spending a lot of times inside- playing video games where he feels safe. Even then, sometimes somethings trigger him and he can't get up from bed.
I'm always trying to listen and cheer him up but I've lost my own mom unexpectedly last year and this was very hard. Very hard for me to look after my husband's depression while I'm having a melt down by myself and also looking after my teenage son as well. Furthermore, I had to change my workplace where I worked for 10years because it's been sold and I couldn't get on with new boss. This was added another stress for me. I live reginal area so everything is limited. I contacted local community center about counseling service but their funding just stopped so no longer offer the service any more. Spoke to flying in doctor and she put me onto this SANE website.
I don't have close friends who can talk to this kind of things. Or I don't really want to talk to local people because this place is like everybody knows everybody kind of place so I don't want unnecessary rumors to spread out. The thing is, there are so many spritual/ wellness business in this town. Few of our (so called) friends have business like that but when my husband expressed his emotion, nobody comes forward to help or even just listen.- this caused him another episode of distrust issues.
The thing is I just want him to be happy but he dosen't want get help. He dosen't trust local GP, any of local group or anything. He only trust me and my son but I can only so much and very limited if he's not keen to get help. What's the best way to get help for him? Is there anything else that I can do? I feel stuck with no light coming to the end at the moment. Any advice is appreciated. Thank you.
