Is meaningful change possible

Sure will tag you too @PeppiPatty .... but it's not all relax I can assure you .... juggling like mad the whole time and we are harnessed to WH's controlling regimen and the dysfunctional dynamics that has brought with it. I just try to make the most of it while we are committed to walking him home, and we are having some incredible experiences along the way, which helps to soothe the heartache underneath it all.

@Former-Member .... a lot of European people keep a garden of pots. Maybe that will work for you, on a patio or around the edge of the lawn .... and pots need watering every day. That might keep you busy along with the walks ...

tag me girl.

I'm right with you. I feel......it would be so easy to get to be the high fallooting victim in this.

But I choose to be here.

I like your walking regime very much. I imagine that I need someone like you to get me out.

@PeppiPatty

Consider yourself tagged ❣

I gardened with pots once ... and now I am taking over my whole court !!

Thats change .. cos before that I did not garden at all.

I need to be tagged on going for walks

All I ever wanted was someone who would go walkies wiv mee .... tears ..boo hoo ..

So can we do a deal @Faith-and-Hope.. I take myself on real one .. but we can mutually back pat re the benefits ... yeah??

and then coffee at @PeppiPatty place ??

bout time @Appleblossom........

please take me on walk too

Sounds grrrreat to me ladies .... 😄❣

Just need to get past this bl##dy flu first ..... 😠 .... there's my boo hoo !

Deal

going to the river tonight

maybe fly to Perth .. get there by morning .. coffee then?

Fluids & Rest @Faith-and-Hope

maybe @Former-Member will drive us to her favourite walking track one day ??

Yeah the coffee thing .. comes & goes with me .. I try to keep it under 3 per day ..

This has been such a great thread to read thanki you all @Dothemo @AlgebraicFury & @Former-Member

I find it easiest to assess change when I look back ..

in the present .. it seems more difficult to achieve .. win some goals and not others etc ..

also being happy with what is ...

but gee I have also railed against that concept too .. lol

I can just see me walking into a coffee shop asking where Appleblossum,Peppipatty and Faith and Hope are sitting!Lol,with me holding a picture of my cat profile or maybe I would wear whiskas and ears!Lol Then we could tell them we met on the Sane site!laughGot a few pots Faith and Hope.Had a thing for fushias before Xmas got 4 hanging baskets of them.What caused the flu do you think?What is the weather in Greece.I don't know how cold it gets there.I did another10 k tonight trying to think not to miss a night this week.I usually get a severe bout of depression once a week so I will see how I go.

Fuschias

❤️ it @Former-Member ..... ❣

Here at the moment we have been swinging weather-wise between fine days (15deg) and very cold days (3deg) .... Here the people say that that is when there are a lot of microbes about .... bacteria and viruses, and you are more likely to come down sick. There seems to be some truth in that .... 🤒

If you do look up my travel thread you will see that we have actually been bouncing around all over the place here for a couple of months, based in Greece, cos that's where we have somewhere to stay, but taking excursions in this country and elsewhere ... 🌎

Our youngest three kids (of five) are with us, and also MIL .... the dynamics and relationships are at times challenging, but the most challenging aspect is that everywhere we go our time-tabling is driven by WH's diet / exercise regimen, and it's intense. That, and travelling, and juggling a disabled adult, a dependent senior, and then my D3 had a sublaxation of her knee first week out from Aus .... 😳😞

Behind this trip was a full-on year of D1's engagement, D3's 18th, S2's 21sr, D3's graduation from high school after four years of ill health and two knee dislocations, right before D1's Big Fat Greek Wedding ..... all with juggling WH's coming and going from home (he set up work projects elsewhere - it easier to be on his own because he has hidden e.d. behaviours and by himself he doesn't have the pressure of living a double life) and the circumstantial depression that has impacted all of us to differing degrees as a result of the mood swings and controlling behaviours WH was manifesting at the time .... :face_with_rolling_eyes:😳😔

Oh ... and my DIL has bipolar and wasn't coping either ..... whole other story there .... 😢

Gee .... I wonder why we've all got a really bad flu .... ?!! 🤒🤒🤒🤒🤒🤒 .... 😔

With everything that has happened, I am just grateful that the wheels have stayed on and the flu is all it is ...... ❤️💕