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Eden1919Senior Contributor
When is it reasonable to quit. When is it ok to just give up. How much is enough. I am so tired and nothing I do is ever enough no matter how hard I try I can’t keep up and now I think I have ruined everything I don’t know that it is fixable either. I keep crying but that is little help. Anyway how do you know when it is ok to call quits?
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AinjouleSenior Contributor
Hey @Eden1919
At times in the past I have wondered the same thing as you, but I have managed to come back from some very dark places. And I believe, with my whole heart, that recovery is possible. So today friend, is not the day to call it quits.
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rav3nSenior Contributor
hey @Eden1919 i'm so sorry to hear you've been feeling like this, i too have had times where i've wanted to give up and asked myself that same question. @Ainjoule has said it perfectly, recovery is definitely possible. you might feel like you've hit rock bottom and it can't get better, but that's the trick our brains plays with us - when we're at our lowest, we feel like we're in a small dark empty house with no doors but really, we just forgot to turn the light on and there's so many (doors) ways we can get through this.
i can see you've been trying so hard, i assure you it will be worth it, things will get better and you will look back on this day and be proud for pushing through. you matter to us and you don't have to deal with this alone. please do reach out to your supports, reach out to services such as:
crying can definitely be a great release, i find journaling, deep breathing, warm showers and connecting with nature (watching sunsets, going for a walk) also really helpful in grounding myself. please don't hesitate to reach out to loved ones, the services above or the forums community, we all care about you deeply. here for you 💗
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Insignificant1Casual Contributor
I think I’m ready to call it. Nothing seems worthwhile anymore. I’m not worthwhile anymore. I’m not wanted by anyone and I’m too afraid to reach out as I’m usually rejected. There’s lots of reasons why, none are worth talking about.
They say suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. My problem has been permanent, ever present. I’m just too different to be accepted, and when I do meet someone who’s kind I have to resist the urge to reach out for fear of being overbearing.
I have so much to give, but nobody wants it. That’s how you know.
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tymeModerator
Hey @Insignificant1 ,
I'm sorry to hear how hard things are for you at the moment.
As hard at things are, there is hope that things will improve.
In my own like, I came to the point of losing all hope.. but that was when things turned around. They turned around when I least expected it.
What supports do you have in place?
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