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Husband funeral

Husband funeral

My husband's funeral is Monday .so much is going through my mind it's hard I really want a connection with my children so much

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Re: Husband funeral yesterday

Hey @Leeanne1 ,

Good on you for letting your son know how you felt. I hear what he is saying and that it can be hard.

Please know we are thinking of you and hear how incredibly hard things must be for you at this moment.

Have you been able to do anything pleasant for yourself at the moment?

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@tyme

I've been crocheting, spending time with mum and my friend and I will see my daughter friday

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ooo nice! what are you crocheting at the moment? @Leeanne1

glad you're spending time with your mum and friends, hoping that the visit with your daughter today goes well too 😊

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Hi @Leeanne1

I'm truly sorry for the pain you've been experiencing. This has been an especially difficult week, navigating so many challenging issues while also grieving a significant loss.

I want to acknowlege the emotional weight of losing someone who has played a role in your life, while also facing complex relationship issues with your children.

During this, you've managed to take the brave step of reaching out here for support, and have connected with people who care about you, your mother, friend and your daughter, whom I hope you have a lovely visit with today.

You've also shown self-care by engaging in your hobby of crocheting, which not only provides comfort in times of distress but helps build resilience as we discover ways to soothe ourselves, so good on you.

I hope this marks the begginning of strengthening your connections with your children, grounded in shared compassion for what you've all endured, and forgiveness for past hurts or differences.

Be gently with yourself, grief is a deeply personal journey.

Kindly Alisse

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@rav3n

She changed it to tomorrow we are going to the market and have lunch. I crocheting a pair of trouser and a hexagon cargian. And knitting a dress

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I'm so sorry that hapened to you @Leeanne1, I can't even begin to imagine what that must've felt like. Even though I cannot understand what it is you are going through, I do know what it's like to have complex family issues and to be misunderstood and treated poorly. It can be so hurtful…

That's wonderful that you can crochet, good on you! I don't even know how to sew a button on — so I'm impressed. I'm happy to see that you've got a counsellor and have been spending time with your mum and saw/will see your daughter today, I hope it goes well!

Please know that you're not alone, and I hope that you can continue to reach out to us and other supports during this difficult time.

Looking forward to hearing from you, take care.

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@defaultusername

I have mix emotions about my husband part of me hate him and the other parts of me miss the good times. But I feel sad for the childrens

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That is completely understandable, @Leeanne1, you are allowed to have mixed emotions — He was your husband… And I feel for your children — death is hard and everyone grieves differently. All you can do is be available to them for if and when they may need you.

But I hope that you are feeling supported throughout this?

Remember to try to be kind to yourself 🧡

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I don't want to do the recovery club

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Hey @Leeanne1 , That's totally okay. You've had a lot happening for you lately. We respect your wishes. Good on you for giving it a go.

Would you like me to ask someone to contact you?

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