Sober & sober-curious

morning @Macqua

there are a few older threads about sobriety and sober

not sure if you were a big drinker or not

we were only drinking a couple of beers a day which would seem like nothing to other people

but we have not had a drink in ages , we are feeling a lot better without it

but some days I really miss having one after a big day

my husband said the drink was affecting his meds and MH

@balance37 , @florencefifty , @MissA , @tyme , @Ru-bee , @Jynx

Hey @Shaz51, thanks for responding!

I was quite a big drinker, but it then got down to not so much but still daily.

Good on you and the hubby!

It affects my MH and meds as well so totally relate there. So many of my meds say no to that but it didn’t stop me.

I did see some older threads but not a new one but I saw “sober” mentioned in newer posts without one in particular. Just thought I’d see what happened and if it could help anyone perhaps reach out if needed ☺️

great idea @Macqua

I will keep my eye open and tag others here 😎

This thread is a great suggestion for a future Recovery Webinar! @tyme can you feed that into the mix? Our partners at Turning Point could help us deliver something.

@Macqua and @Shaz51 any particular themes that would be good to cover in a live event?

I have passed on this feedback @RachSANECEO @Macqua @Shaz51 ,

Definitely a worth-while topic.

@Macqua

The gratitude is that I have a strong support base and friends who don't judge me

The main struggle now is finding events that don't focus so heavily on alcohol consumption and still feeling the need to explain myself when people ask me why I'm not drinking

That's so great to hear @balance37 . Well done.

I hear what you mean by events that focus on drinking... I'm not a drinker, but I totally know what you mean. People look at my like I've got two heads when I say I don't drink.

I an only imagine how hard it must be for those struggling with sobriety.

@tymeIt's very interesting (not sure that's the right word?) that there is such a pressure to drink, and that anyone is asking why you don't in the first place.

With most people now, especially those that don't know me well, I have been able to find a go to line which is also honest, something like "I use to drink a lot and it was a major issue for me, so I decided it wasn't for me". Surprisingly, people actually take this very well, and it makes them also think about their relationship with alcohol and at times opens up a conversation about it (people have even said they think they might have a problem, but how did I know, what help did I get etc). I've found honesty difficult to begin with, but now see the power of it.

That's so powerful @balance37 . Thanks for sharing. Who knows? What you say may even support others to do the same. I recognise it's not easy to give up drinking.

@Macqua , How are you?

@balance37love your responses and insights!

Ive had some recent experiences with people saying I was so funny when they met me drunk but I was honest and said I found it embarrassing and/or couldn’t remember it and that honesty has extended into a deep conversation that helps both of us. I agree with honesty being the best policy despite how hard it is.

Coming to terms I had a problem made my dad reevaluate his drinking and he’s now been sober for a year and a half!

Im still stumbling but getting back up! This time seems to be different though as I have some extra support that I’m making sure to use as much as possible, but I still have “those” days.

@tyme honestly things are going well so I can’t complain, how are you?