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Childhood Trauma

OaktreeSenior Contributor10 Sept 2024, 6:09 pm AEST

Childhood Trauma

Hi to whoever reads this.

I was born the 5th of 6 children and my parents should never have had kids. My childhood was very unstable. My Dad would go out and get drunk and then he would come home and be physical with Mum and us kids.

My Mum left him the Christmas before my 9th birthday. Unfortunately she wasn’t a very good mother either. She would tell me everything was my fault. She even told me that she wished I was never born when I was about 12. I could have understood her treatment if I was a troublesome kid but I was really well behaved. I left home and joined the Army when I was 17 years old just to get away from her.

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DimitySenior Contributor11 Sept 2024, 12:14 am AEST

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Sorry to hear that @Oaktree .

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Shaz51Senior Contributor11 Sept 2024, 10:19 am AEST

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Hugs @Oaktree ❤️

Thanks for sharing some of your story

And you have come so far from there my friend

Hugs @Dimity 😊 you have come along where too my awesome friend 🧡

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OaktreeSenior Contributor11 Sept 2024, 2:31 pm AEST

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@Dimity

Hi,

Sorry you had a difficult childhood too.

I got myself a psychologist that specialises in childhood trauma but at this stage I am not sure that I want trauma therapy. At the moment we are working on issues that I have as a result of my upbringing

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DimitySenior Contributor12 Sept 2024, 10:54 pm AEST

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I trust iyour therapy is helping @Oaktree . My previous psychologist thought the way to help with my current issues was to deal with the past trauma but we didn't finish the work. It was very upsetting when she discharged me.

I'm sorry your siblings weren't/aren't close. Mine neither. And I seem to have just fallen out with the last ones - they've been angry with me and I feel too bruised to try to make peace with them. I'm left with no supports.

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NatureLoverSenior Contributor13 Sept 2024, 6:11 pm AEST

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So sorry about all the abuse @Oaktree @MJG017 @Dimity 😥

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OaktreeSenior Contributor13 Sept 2024, 6:37 pm AEST

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@Dimity

Sorry to hear that you are not close with your siblings. It’s like your shared experiences should bond you but it doesn’t. It seems to separate you for whatever reason. Maybe because you are a reminder of the past and the past is too painful to think about

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DimitySenior Contributor13 Sept 2024, 10:22 pm AEST

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I've been estranged from most of my siblings since our parents passed @Oaktree . Even as kids we didn't get along.

Maybe because you are a reminder of the past and the past is too painful to think about . I don't know about them @Oaktree but yes I guess I feel that way about them. At the same time I wish we could patch things up and move forward.

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