Getting Angrier

My dear friend i know how you feel. Been there so often myself.

if i may suggest a method i used tgo support myself through such times? See if you can find a quiet place, where you can be on your own for sure for some time, the beach can be a awesome place here, especially during a storm, and then scream out all your anger, bitterness, disappointment into the night sky.

Do not stop until your pent up anger has stopped storming inside. And say goodbye to it, affirming to yourself the truth, that you do not like being angry like that, but often are, and that you would love to learn to productive when angry.

Then give yourself a big hug, for taking care of yourself, even when you are an angry person. Please keep doing this every time anger threatens to undo you. Try not tot agree with your anger when it is unreasonable, and self focused, but do not deny yourself your anger when you cannot do that. Just keep giving yourself release screaming into the night sky.

This simply method i have used successfully, for many years, while i was still prey to my unreasonable rages, which have often driven me psychotic in the past. And is best done on your own, in a safe place.

Today, and for some years now, i rage no more, though i still can get very angry, my anger is never unreasonable anymore, like it used to be, but i can can keep control, and do not hate myself anymore an angry person, like used to do, after my rages destroyed my relationship with my loved once more. Now my angry times, though rare now, are more and more productive, instead of destructive, for the love grown inside, looks at things very different, then things i did through the eyes of my rages.

The best part is now my frequent psychoses have ceased all together, even when triggered at my worst. Growing love, in the place of anger, is unbelievable powerful in subduing uncontrollable rages, and bringing back once self esteem.

Please be of good courage.

Hey @HamBone

How is the new dog park going? I've been thinking of you and how you have been traveling...

Hi @lighthouse22 , about to head there in 30 minutes. It’s quiet. Not many other dogs which is not great because Bella loves playing with the other dogs. She has made 1 very good friend Max. He really has a big crush on Bella. They are very cute when playing together. But Max’s Dad lives in a Van and they are travellers so we won’t see them for long periods. I think we must go back to our regular park. At least once a week. It make me feel sick to think these Bullies will get the better of me. I know the old cliche’s of It taking the bigger person to walk away, but why should we miss out. Bella has so many dog friends at her old spot. One of the issues I have is my thinking that people are getting the better of me. It’s a flawed way of thinking because these people shouldn’t mean anything to me….but they do.

Echo that @DownMoreThanUp @HamBone

Getting it out in a private place or letting the melt down erupt and pass is all what your body needs to express these emotions. The more self-care talk, talking to yourself like you would a friend does grow in place of the anger. After a consistent period of time practicing this you may find the "pause" button that you cannot access at the moment. Its like my new mantra I say to myself regularly now that I am in a more kind and loving self-care rhythm: maturity is not responding.

Also accepting that others will be who they are and are not on the same path as you, that is ok too.

EMDR shifts the anger and then the triggers reduce resulting in less hypervigilance of others energy because you find your center and that's what really matters.

I use sleeping tablets to ensure I get solid sleep and I don't feel shame supporting myself with this as I know it will only be for a circumstantial period of time.

Hope you get a good rest tonight,