CK8Casual Contributor
Infidelity and abuse
Hi,
My husband and I have been together for around 10 years. A few months after our youngest was born he began an affair with a work colleague. Unbeknownst to me the affair was serious and within a couple weeks of meeting one another they were already saying " I love you" and planning their future together. The AP was aware of me and our children and also had a child similar age to ours. During the affair verbal and emotional abuse began and became an everyday part of my life. Six months after they met, I discovered the affair but was led to believe that it was only emotional and that it was now over. My husband then said he needed some time apart to work on himself to be a better father and husband and we lived a few days together and apart during the week for many months. This however was an excuse to spend more time outside of work with the AP and even going on a holiday for her birthday (I knew he was on holiday but not the real reason or who he was with, again a claim to better himself).
From that I then found out the truth and we began living together again and despite the promises, but the abuse became worse. I was blamed and did not receive the support I needed.
I am now engaging various professional supports for my mental health, but I am called a negative person and told I am a drain on him. I am trying my hardest but with the level of trauma I experienced I do find it difficult and whilst I may not be this "brightness", I always remain respectful and try my best to be positive and at the very least remain neutral most of the time.
