Family separation

@Leeanne1 🦋Hi, sorry you are having a tough day today, can you take time out this afternoon and do anything relaxing or really nice for yourself

@Tolly

I have no motivation to do anything tonight

@Former-Member It sounds like you are really exhausted or sometimes I know what you mean, it is hard to find motivation to do much, sometimes it is good to just go with that and maybe allow yourself to just eat something good, or watch a good video, anything that just feels nurturing and not always expect ourselves to be motivated but just let it all fall away and just to relax and just be if we need to and then other days the energy and motivation is more but not having to force ourselves to be anything 🦋

@Leeanne1 sweetie, it's okay to not be okay. I know that sounds trite but sometimes it is all I can do just to breathe.

Not being okay stings, it tears down your resilience and makes you question yourself - this is my own experience at least.

You are worthy
You are loved by your Sane Fam

You deserve more

I don't know if it will help but I will pray for you if that's okay. Having been there, I truly understand.

@ENKELI

Thank you I appreciate that you listen to me . I had a fight with my mother grandson he call me fat B and I had to walk out this has shaken me up so bad I'm finding it hard to settle down .no one has the right to call me name that hurt my feelings yes I'm over weight because I had 8 children . He has upset me I can't stop thinking about it

@Leeanne1 I'm overweight and had no biological children. Some of us are prone to weight gain and you're right NO ONE has the right to call you names.

I had 2 Godchildren that I co-parented for 8 years, knew them for 10 years and then 2 years ago their mother cut me out of their lives. I am not allowed to contact them and tomorrow is my Goddaughters' 18th birthday. I am devastated because I have just received via a "friend" who has now been blocked text messages telling me how horrid a person I am.

It's a lie that names will never hurt. They do.
Is there something that you like to do that you can do to self soothe? I am listening to Christian music which is my go-to and allowing myself to cry.
The feeling of been left adrift in a large ocean is uncomfortable and regardless of the well meaning people who say "this too shall pass" it's not a place to remain for long.
I really hope you find something to help you feel better. The only thing I can say is that people usually point out the faults they see in themselves to others. ie the "friend" who texted me told me that I should be in a mental hospital when in fact that is where he belongs - he's projecting on to me to make himself feel better. Hope that makes sense.
I will sit with you and pray for peace to come over you. If you don't believe that's fine, just know that I care and you are worth more than all the stars in the sky

xo

@ENKELI

I can't stop thinking about today and now I feel depressed . It's giving mea headache 😢😢

Hey @Leeanne1 , I can see how difficult today has been for you. I'm sorry to hear this happened. I hear your pain and how upsetting those words were to you. You have every reason and right to feel hurt.

At the same time, how do we reframe this thread and this post so that we can focus on growth, learning and recovery?

What does support from the community look like for you at this time?

We are in this together.

@tyme

I feeling so sick ATM

Do you have an evening routine to help you wind down for the nigt? It won't take the pain away, but maybe some self-compassion might be helpful tonight @Leeanne1 .

You have an entire community here sitting with you.