Carers Hints and tips to Success

Hair and nails are major struggle areas for me @Former-Member , so I target them for self-care activities now.

Hi @CoffeeandBooks 👋.....

@CoffeeandBooks

Your user name = a fab self care tip

Coffee + book, in a garden = bliss

@Lemonjuice

You might pick up some carer tips that are helpful in this thread.

@Determined @Jacques @wombats @Patrick @MarkPage @patientpatient @Dadcaringalone @AdamB @Alan

Just a quick reminder that todays Topic Tuesday discussion this evening is about Being a Male in a Caring Role and you can find the information about it here

@Ali11 mentioned in another thread how that self care is not really about spoiling ones self and I agree, it is about respecting ones self. Extending these respect basics towards ourselves enables us to better care for our loved ones.

Great reminder and visual @Former-Member! These graphics are really helpful. Was talking with a friend earlier about simple things like how you feed yourself being an act of love for your body

How you feed yourself is probably a practical outcome of self respect @Ali11.

Our healthy eating began to counter side effects of Mr Darcy's medication. Now I am doing it for myself.

If I may open a discussion. There are times when "Trust your gut" just doesn't work.

If I trusted my gut when it comes to trips up to my parents' place, most of them wouldn't happen. It's hard buying the ticket. I've had times when I've arrived at the city interchange, and "following my gut" would put me on the next train back home.

And there's times too when I feel like winding up a phonecall with our daughter, or walking out of a hospital room, because my mind just doesn't want another layer of trauma.

In both cases, I need to "fight my gut" for the good of the other person, and sometimes for my own good too. But I'm concerned at what that level of internal conflict does to me in the long term. So I try to balance that with other aspects of self care instead.

So what do other people do when their gut feeling is to "run away", but they know they need to stay? (I'm absolutely sure I won't be the only one who goes through this truggle.)