TW: Sexual assault that caused my relationship to end.

Hey @Chloie ,

Welcome to the forums.

I'm so sorry to hear about what happened. As mentioned, whether intoxicated or not, no one has the right to do what they did. I'm glad you had the courage to speak up about it.

At the same time, I'm sorry your partner didn't understand. It sounds incredibly difficult to not only have to go through the SA, but then to not be supported by someone who you thought would.

Did the police link you in with any supports?

Do you have anyone you can talk to?

Please know you are not alone in this.

Thank-you for your response Tyme.

It's constantly on replay and it hurts because I can't give answers to what I don't have answers about my own self. and to try to do the best you can do to prove to him AND my oneself. I feel guilty, and start to beat myself up about it and think of this and was it that, if I did this and that. I know that shows in its self that just maybe who I thought was to be the partner I was going to start a family with isn't and wasn't meant to happen. And that he wasn't mature enough to come to the table to see what it is. It's like I'm constantly trying to reinsure myself and I still need to prove myself, I need that to stop, and to pass.

Yes thank you I do have support from close family &n while I was at the Police Station they gave me support numbers. The police who took my report gave me her contact and the report details just incase the therapist would like to access them. Im now just waiting on doctors appointments to get referrals to Make appointment.

what I'm really after if reinsurance of some sort, but I don't no what!?!? 😞

Hi Darling,

I didn’t read the entire post because it looked like a trigger warning.

What stopped me was the word liar. My love, I don’t know about what has happened to you but please understand that the word “liar” is the most toxic and weaponized word in our lexicon, it’s used solely to discredit and demoralize. When we talk about emotion or our interpretation of events, we are never liars. Embellishments, fabrications, these are terms for consideration, but a lie? People can get stuffed sometimes. I’m sorry I didn’t read your story because it would make me feel sad too.
people can get stuffed. Everyone that calls another person a liar is willing themselves to get a frozen coke chucked out of my drivers window while they walk down the street.
sexual assault can take the wind from your sails, make you dislike or question who you are.
you are not your sexual assault, you’re not a liar. You are sovereign and you will build your empire on this offense.

My love,

If someone hurts you, you don’t need that person. You need to be away from people who hurt you. I promise.
The people who profess to love the people they hurt, they won’t change and they will resent you for allowing them to hurt you. This is the dark and sad chapter of the DSM.
love, I love pizza, I love my dog, I love movies. I love green lights and 0 traffic.

the love you feel is yours alone and the love you have is awesome and amazing, you’ll make a marvelous life and have many friends and make your own family.
love that is like proper love, healthy love, loving love..will never hurt you and lest, never blame you for hurt.
this is only acceptable in dementia maybe, radical personality change.

My dear, never stay with someone who hurts you. Don’t love someone who hurts you.

Dear @Chloie

So proud of you for being able to put what you went through down in words, it can't have easy, so well done. As regards that partner of yours, well he was not there for you, which I so sorry for and he didn't give you the support and respect that you deserve. Another one of life's painful lessons that are sometimes forced upon us.

Hoping that the support network around loves and supports you during this time and always, you know we are always here if you need to sound off. Take care of yourself........Asgard

I really appreciate your support and kind words, I can't stress it enough, I've never opened up or have the GUTS enough to come forward regarding such circumstances.

thank you all for your time and care!. thank-you !!!

Forget regardless of intoxication for starters and for your peace of mind. The culture wants you to get hammered, black out and be compliant.
I don’t want to make this about my feminism but I must ask you to review the films you’ve seen, messages you’ve heard in the media. Spanish fly, I’m going to get her drunk..etc. funky cold Medina. This is rape culture and its many excuses and opportunities for exploitation. Don’t get me started on capitalism and how all of this is the means of suppression and control.
you were drunk, so what? Every dude that’s good at football is drunk too, and coked up.