Goodbye Again

Hey @Trickster ,

Thanks for sharing. Good on you for taking so many steps in bettering yourself. If you don't mind, I'd like to share what I got from your post:

1) you reached out to a support group

2) you are working on getting an autism diagnosis

3) you worked on bridging the gap between this person when you felt you were being pushed aside

4) you found a way to self-soothe in going to a calm place

5) you talked through coping skills

Wow wow and wow! You ought to be acknowledged for everything you have actively done! I hope you can give yourself the credit too!

It takes a huge amount of strength to do what you have done and I want to acknowledge that.

This doesn't mean there isn't anymore work to be done, but it's an impressive start.

So proud of you.

Thanks @tyme I'm reminding myself of all those things, despite living with symptoms of Autism all my life living with the knowledge that it may be that now and working with that. It's makes sense but it's incredibly frustrating it's like here's the source no you cannot do anything about it and that will impact you for the rest of your life.

UNLESSS, you can work with the superpowers and make them your strengths? @Trickster

Neurodiversity can be POWERFUL. I'm not saying you won't have challenges, but knowing our strengths keeps us going.

I'm sure you have things you are so good at that I could only dream of doing....

@tymeevery brain is unique including those with autism, skills and communication present different I knew this, the other person didn't, or didn't extend the notion that my communication was interrupted by my neurodiversity, because I seem more put together which I understand that assumption I masked somewhat I didn't trauma dump to much. I didn't want to put that information on the other people, protecting people from information that has occured to me is a pretty common theme for me.

Would you consider 'normalising' neurodiversity? @Trickster This does not mean ignoring it, but acknowledging it instead? I know quite a few people who tend to just let people now. I remember a colleague in the past who always in passing conversation would say "Oh, that's just my ADHD". People really appreciated it.

@tymeNormalisation is great and it's 💯 something I do however I think it's just not something that works with every person you talk to, the ones I have had the biggest issues with have been largely hiding things themselves and we have large communication break downs because I see that and I go hey 👋 I see that I see you can I help and I'm also there in the muck and I think that's terrifying for someone who isn't ready to address those things outloud like I do which I get and I probably make it worse but I just miss things and then in those circumstances and I'm worried it'll always be like. Plastering a sign "I'm sorry I hurt you but it was my Autism" just also feels like it would never be enough.

Hearing you there @Trickster .

I don't think anyone can ever make people 100% pleased...

Do you think it's about finding your tribe? And continuing to do so until you find the people who accept you for who you are?