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A Mazda 6 airbags didn't deploy ?

That's terrible. And they have such good reputation.

@Mustang67 @Oaktree @Former-Member @Appleblossom @tyme @MJG017

@TAB @Bill16

When I famously left my first husband I used to dye my hair purple.  then only wash my hair every second or third day.

I wore DM boots. And purple hair.

@PeppyPatti that's a pretty colour.

I finished it @Former-Member I finished it

@avant-garde woohoo, well done. Super proud of you ❤️

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@PeppyPatti wrote:

I use cera ve on my skin. But I'm 57. Never that good on that stuff.

@rav3n

I used to put honey on pimples which is away to calm down those red ones, it all goes overnight with bandaid on top. Or vix vaporub.

Can't believe they still pop up. I thought that wrinkles were a replacement from pimples and possibly..... A gaining of wisdom ??

Taken from a book by Barbara Trollope when I was about 19....it was a great novel....what was it called again ?

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i used to put honey & turmeric on pimples, definitely calms the skin (but the turmeric stains a bit if i keep it on for too long hehe). i never thought of using vicks VapoRub, might give it a try next time.

my pimples are not too wild at the moment, but my skin's very dry, red, itchy and damaged due to side effects from a medication i took. i can't see a derm for another 2 weeks.

how was your weekend by the way?

I wrote this long message - ok h here it is ,-

I visited this mother, someone I used to know, but I haven't seen her for a year because I feel she is an awful mum to her adult children.

And - I saw her to remind myself how easily I could slip into that with my own sons.

My oldest, the 34-year-old, he's smart, finally finding his own path. At 15, my own mum pulled him away, sent him to my brother. We've had years of silence.

Yesterday,
He sent me a message, basically saying I'm still pushing too hard and being selfish.

Last week, when he visited me, He did tell my therapist he loves me, though, which I'm holding onto.

I get it.

I have my support:

husband,

therapist,

the carers (yeah, they're hit or miss),

my drawing teacher.

So, I apologized and told him I'd back off.
Then, I saw this other mother again. She's telling me who her sons should be with, what they 'need.' It was uncomfortable, but I needed to see it, to feel what it's like to be that parent who can't let go.
She moved on to her daughter, and it was just...

ugh. I needed to see how it messes them up, these adult kids. Because, honestly, a lot of her stuff hits close to home.

My 34-year-old, he's not perfect, but I see now that if I try to rush him, it'll just backfire. He needs to figure this out on his own, break free from his own patterns. He's trying, and I need to let him.

So my youngest son - omg he's the real adult here.

My oldest heaps of years of therapy to my youngest who gets on the phone, tells me off to stop treating him like a child ........

Tells me he loves me heaps and see you soonish.

@rav3n @tyme @Oaktree @Former-Member @avant-garde @Appleblossom @Meowmy @Dimity

Then.....

I met up with this carer who continuously called and texted me. I met her for coffee so she could have closure. Iv been pulled to pieces whilst she told me -

Iv made her broke and she has to find more work.

She never ever said what she said to my husband " how does it feel not to have as much power over ........than I do ?"

She sat there and listed everything iv made her feel for an hour whilst I profoundly apologised.

That all her family members and friends saw her crying but she never ever would tell them why she was crying.

A whole hour of apologies.

@PeppyPatti

OMG

are you ok?

this is terrible

so sorry hun

sending hugs

families can be complicated. sometimes we love them so much but we don't really show it in our actions as much. sounds like your sons have a lot of love for you @PeppyPatti

i'm so sorry to hear how you were treated. sending you hugs 💙

It's ok guys

Thanks so much

It was very good for me to see this terrible mother. She is very manipulative to her sons.

I hold onto that @rav3n

@Oaktree

Thankyou