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Oh and just to be extra clear @avant-garde when I say I wouldn't personally use that word, it's not me saying I disapprove or anything! I'm just pointing out that we all communicate in different ways, and if you feel like altering it too much would deny you the chance to express yourself, maybe it's not worth doing.

@Jynx

They say the word hate darkens the soul.

My soul is dark anyway so why do I care what they think

I need her to feel the gravity of the message, I think what I originally wrote is fine and that its about me this time around. It's about me feeling heard, not them.

@Jynx

Going with the original, adding this sentence

"I know I used the word hate a lot there but I need you to understand just how much your actions have impacted and continue to impact me"

@avant-garde I like it - tho I think if the purpose is to try to offer a lil dose of compassion along the way, adding in a little acknowledgement like...

"I know I used the word hate a lot there, and it is a very strong word that might feel hurtful. But I really need you to understand just how much your actions have impacted and continue to impact me"

Up to you ofc - but yeah it sounds like you are standing up for yourself and the empowerment you're showing is honestly an inspiration 😊💜

@Jynx

I like it but I don't want her to think we can ever be friends again. Part of me wants to hurt her like she hurt me...

oh niceee any particular genres you're into? are you watching anything good at the moment? @Hopeandlove

@Jynx

My healthy adult is telling me that I may be angry now but I won't be angry forever.

When I'm eventually not angry, it wouldn't be me if compassion wasn't shown.

This is about portraying hurt and expressing boundaries, not angry remarks

Absolutely human nature to want that @avant-garde. One thing I think that humans crave is being understood. Wanting to hurt someone in the way they hurt us, is to my mind our way of trying to show them the impact so they might finally understand us, and why we are feeling so hurt by their actions.

The flipside of the coin is - what does that do to us? I dunno about you but I don't ever walk away from that kind of thing feeling good about myself. Even if they do deserve it, I think it can leave even more impacts on us, more scars across our hearts. If it feels like this is what you need for closure, then fair enough - I guess I just feel it's worth maybe contemplating how it would actually feel for you.

I am off for tonight!! Feel free to let me know how you go though. Catch you soon lovely, thanks for the chats 😊

Yesss nailed it @avant-garde glad to hear it! Okay night for realsies 😋

Lol @Jynx I can't say that word

phenomenal. phenomenal. But the moderators on this website do a

phenomenal job.

Thankyou !

May I whinge about giving compliments ? Well as everyone knows even though iv

blocked my ex husband because I'm burnt out and I wrote a letter to a couple of newspapers I noticed that the people

working in locked wards the nurses and support workers sort of......... Were very rude to me when I used to drop cigarettes off etc and if I said oh your doing a good

job, they would perk up and discuss their really good job they are doing but not once would anyone ask after me.

Ffffffftttttt.

So many gaps in mental health.

Looks like my ex husband will be seeing a councellor on Mondays which is good.

@TAB

I think I'm going to employ a young art graduate of fine arts every week because some inheritance came through for me.

Who would have guessed ? Ide rather buy a car but that might not happen for one more year.