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@Healandlove thanks for sharing, and yeah I think your couples psych nailed it - pretty sure the literal definition of co-dependency is just two people relying on each other right? And if the reliance is balanced with a good measure of healthy independence, I can't imagine it to be a bad thing... we just probably wouldn't call it 'co-dependent' anymore because of the connotations! It all comes back to our narrative, how we frame and conceptualise things for ourselves. And what is healthy co-dependency for some, could be unhealthy co-dependency for others, it's all very subjective and individual I reckon.

I can hear in your words that you've already done some solid work - I mean you must have, to be able to recognise what you feel you want to improve on! So big kudos to you hun, that is worthy of recognition. And in regards to wanting conflict resolution straight away - part of me learning to manage this was also me learning emotional regulation and healthy mental compartmentalisation (i.e. for me that was learning to recognise when I need to put the issue down and focus on distractions vs when I need to engage with my emotional process and seek some support). Also helped having someone point out to me during a significant conflict with a friend that the fact that it seemed deeply unfair for me to be in a state of such high distress and STILL be mentally prioritising someone else's emotional state over my own... Perspective helps!

Naww thanks hun, and right back at you! Top quality human right here! 💜

@Jynx @Shaz51 @Healandlove @Former-Member @Meowmy

Hey guys,

So I made some moves today. I rang a psychological & OT provider. They are going to call me back tomorrow. The receptionist has discussed me with the head of practice to see who would best suit my needs. I did tell her that I had childhood trauma and had a bunch of issues that I wanted to address. She said I might be able to get an opening as early as next week. I am feeling hopeful

@Oaktree very good re psychologist

Nice one @Oaktree good on you! Hope it is indeed a super swift process!

I hope you have done/will do something nice for yourself to celebrate this achievement! 😊💜

@Jynx , thank you for your thoughts on conflict resolution. You are so right. For me the reconnecting is so important and the need to feel secure again in the relationship means I get anxious about it and it doesn't help someone with cptsd and avoidance style like my husband. Also doesn't help me to be anxious about it! Like you pointed out, it's not fair on me. So I need to practice the walking away more and the reconnecting. And my husband needs to work on taking steps to open up the discussion again, reconnecting or be opened about it. He has good days when he can do it and days when he shuts down completely.

I am learning to prioritise myself and although maintaining my empathy, I am learning to walk away when I need to.

It's hard...

@Oaktree , that's great news! I hope you find the right psychologist for you and they can help you with your healing.

Sending hugs to all friends here 🥰

That is great news @Oaktree 😊

@Healandlove. @Jynx

I get told to stand up for myself but I find walking away or not saying anything is better in lots of situations

Morning ❤️ @Former-Member. @Meowmy , @Glisten , @Jacques. @MDT. @TAB , @Bill16 , @Ru-bee , @Ainjoule , @tyme , @rav3n , @creative_writer , @Snowie , @StuF

Morning @Shaz51 Good to see you. I got some good news I got a job interview next Monday, probably won’t get the job but very good practice. So excited.

Way to go @Ainjoule ❤️

Will be thinking of you next Monday

Off to the doctor to get my sleep test results

And specialist wants me to get some blood tests done

Had a coffee ☕️ in the city on Monday and forgot to take a photo 📸

@Ainjoule tell us about the job. What sort of job is it?

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Hi.
Im a 55 year old single woman.
all my kids are grown.

I have an Assistance Cat that goes everywhere with me. She is my life saver and my world.

I’m currently in North Queensland living in my caravan.

have been travelling Australia for 3 years.

will be relocating back to the GOLD COAST next year.