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@ArraDreaming ohh i don't think i've tried risoni before but i do love risotto! sounds delish, the creamier the better in my opinion 😋

@Spirit_Healer yes fingers very crossed!! 🤞

Thanks for sharing hun. Just out of curiosity, your full time carer is a paid role, or is it like a person from your own family/friends? Because that sounds awful, and not even remotely helpful or caring!! I would be anxious too 😳

That sucks about your dad. Do you have... I guess, ways to manage his behaviour or recover from its impacts?

@Jynx I was being vague: My dad was made redundant in March and so he is my full- time carer. Mum is retirement age and still working full-time. Usually I am a full- time worker, too.

I can tell he's overwhelmed by his caring for me, I can even hear the weakness and denial in his voice when he says he's doing fine. I think he doesn't want to accept that he can't do a perfect job of looking after his 'baby'. And I'm in my thirties!

We both need a break from each other.

I am not surprised anymore @rav3n , @Jynx , @Ainjoule , @tyme , @Ru-bee

@Spirit_Healer having a family member as a carer can be hard, sometimes those boundaries are harder to set because of that familial relationship - makes a lot of sense why you'd want space!!!
got my fingers crossed for you as well, hoping that PARC comes through with that bed for you! 💜

@Shaz51 not sure if i'm following, what aren't you surprised about?

Sorry @rav3n , it is about the weekend getaway being cancelled

Hubby has cancelled things many time in the past that I really should not be surprised anymore

ohh yes, my brain sometimes mixes up threads oops! @Shaz51

even though its not surprising, it still hurts. it's okay to be upset about it, sending you hugs 💜

is there anyone else you holiday with besides your hubby?

@Spirit_Healer Oh! Sorry if I kinda, pushed you to be all reveal-y!

That is so true what @rav3n says too - the boundaries can get pretty blurry when it's family!! I am the 'baby' of my family too, they're always trying to protect me from stuff and I'm like... Umm not only am I in my 30's but I'm pretty sure my mental health and resilience is better than any of ya's! Lol

What if you kinda... put the boundary in for him? Obvs depends on your relationship but something like, "Hey, I'm really noticing the impact this is having on you, and whilst I am incredibly grateful for all the support, those impacts can now be felt by me as well, and it is actually having a negative impact on my recovery. This isn't sustainable for either of us, so let's work together to find a different approach. I still want you to look after me, but I need you to look after you first." something like that?

@Shaz51 aww hun, that's rough! Maybe you gotta plan a little Shaz holiday, where you don't have to cater to anyone but you!! Or would you miss him too much? Teehee

No just hubby @rav3n 😊 @Jynx

I will be OK, we enjoy being together with whatever we are doing which is good

Go shopping for some goodies for the weekend

Amd getting my hair done tomorrow which will be great 👍

🤣🤣😂 @Jynx 😊👍

aww that's a really lovely attitude to have! @Shaz51 have you started christmas shopping yet?

oo love that bit of self-care too, i always feel like a brand new person when i get my hair done 😄 what sort of hair cut/style are you getting done?