StarshineSenior Contributor
Coping with lonlieness
Hi just wondering if anyone else feels lonely
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Coping with lonlieness
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StarshineSenior Contributor
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@utopia yeah I know what you mean, I bathed the dog today, felt so sorry for him. Plants here look stressed too. Are you mulching?
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StarshineSenior Contributor
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The best I found is shredded newspaper and hay @utopia or sugarcane mulch they sell it at Bunnings I think. I have indoor plants now 🙂
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utopiaSenior Contributor
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I use sugar cane mulch @Starshine. The best for my plants.
Yes I have to wash my two smaller dogs this weekend. My big dog will have to wait a few more weeks. I can't wash her at home. Too big and too awkward.
Yes I have to wash my two smaller dogs this weekend. My big dog will have to wait a few more weeks. I can't wash her at home. Too big and too awkward.
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StarshineSenior Contributor
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@utopia what kind of little dogs do you have? Mine is a maltese/cairn terrier. It's good that you use sugarcane mulch, you seem to like gardening, It's hard work sometimes but good to see it when they grow.
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utopiaSenior Contributor
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@Starshine. Abbey is approx 9 & a maltese schitzu cross. Was my sisters dog and needed a new home.
Max is a Jack Russell cross -approx 6 years old. We rehomed him over a year ago. No one would take him. Spur of the moment decision that I regret. Too many dogs now.
Nash is approx 4 year old Labrador cross. Had from a 7 week old puppy. She's very protective of me.
Love gardening. Used to grow a lot of my vegies before I got sick. No vegies this summer. But slowly getting back into it.
Do you enjoy gardening?
Max is a Jack Russell cross -approx 6 years old. We rehomed him over a year ago. No one would take him. Spur of the moment decision that I regret. Too many dogs now.
Nash is approx 4 year old Labrador cross. Had from a 7 week old puppy. She's very protective of me.
Love gardening. Used to grow a lot of my vegies before I got sick. No vegies this summer. But slowly getting back into it.
Do you enjoy gardening?
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DecadianSenior Contributor
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Hi @utopia
Try looking under Aboriginal Learnings
I haven't followed this up much - I have had a bunch of anniversaries as well as Christmas - and I have felt very flat and tired - but thanks for the shout out to get back into it -
Dec
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DecadianSenior Contributor
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Hi @utopia@Starshine@Bridgetjones
I didn't know that Jim Carey had depression - but I am not surprised - sometimes humour is the way we deal with the terrible things that happen to us
It in no way detracts from the sorrowful experiences of our lives - my son and one of my cousins died by suicide - that is by far two too many - but that has not stopped my humour - in fact my humour has probably saved me
There are many people who have been commedians in public but have suffered terribly in private -
One thing gets to me in a good way - although people can use humour to hide their grief - and I do - I think it also adds to our life-force - if we are meant to be humourous - then we will be
One of my favourite movies is Bruce Almighty
Dec
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BridgetjonesSenior Contributor
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So sorry to hear that youve lost two lost two loved ones due to suicide @Decadian. God bless you!! Wonderful to hear that youve found ways to cope. Thats something Ive been thinking about lately due to sucide of childhood aquaintence in November. Thinking of his family and how the hell families cope with the pain. I also like Bruce Almighty. Was watching The Cable Guy the other day. Seen that one? Watched the majority of Jims movies over and over. Also liked Sunshine of the Spotless Mind.
Hugs Dec
Hugs Dec
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DecadianSenior Contributor
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HI @Bridgetjones
I haven't watched many of Jim Carey's films but one I really enjoy is Lemony Snickett's Series of Misfortunate Events and I am fascinated watching how satirical and cruel this movie is yet makes me sit on the edge of the chair nearly biting my fingernails -
And I have no idea why -
I am so sorry you lost a childhood friend to suicide recently. It is a cruel thing - I can understand why my son did it - he was in a lot of trouble and too young to see his way out - and you know what it says about it taking a village to raise a child - this boy didn't have a village - it is amazing how people bailed on us but I was there till the end - but if a person is determined to leave - they will - which is no consolation to the family at all - that is something we have to find inside ourselves and he died over 30 years ago and I still have bad dates
My cousin though - was older - and so anti anything like euthanasia - impossible to discuss it with him - he was a bioethicist and well published - reading the report of his death on the internet was really hard - how could he do that? - I still don't know
Perhaps those of us who are tested are still here someone because we talk about it with people who help us - I have been incredibly lucky myself - I have had some of the best people to help me professionly -
But I am sorry for your loss
Dec
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BridgetjonesSenior Contributor
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Thanks @Decadian. Hadnt seen the guy from my childhood for many years. My main reaction was shock and sadness of his untimely death at the age of 44. Have some faith as was raised in Catholic family so believe in an after life.
What a wonderful parent being there through the toughest of times. Ive read quite a few of your posts and impressed by your insight and wise comments. You are a great friend to many on here. Are you female? Hope you dont mind me asking. just like to know who Im 'talking' to. not that it matters either way male or female. Im happy to connect with any sane member. Off to bed now. Take care and hope to chat to you again.
What a wonderful parent being there through the toughest of times. Ive read quite a few of your posts and impressed by your insight and wise comments. You are a great friend to many on here. Are you female? Hope you dont mind me asking. just like to know who Im 'talking' to. not that it matters either way male or female. Im happy to connect with any sane member. Off to bed now. Take care and hope to chat to you again.
