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Interesting Article About The Family of One of the Bondi Junction Victims - Has Going Into Therapy Become *Too* Normal?

Interesting Article About The Family of One of the Bondi Junction Victims - Has Going Into Therapy Become *Too* Normal?

This is an interesting article I happened upon this afternoon, based upon a public statement released by the mother of one of the Bondi Junction stabbing victims.
https://www.msn.com/en-au/health/other/mother-of-bondi-junction-stabbing-victim-calls-for-better-critical-mental-health-care-amid-service-gap-crisis/ar-BB1pj2hj

Feel free to comment on anything you find interesting about this article. But what really stood out to me is the insinuation this woman seems to make that most of her extended family, from all around the country - even the young children - have gone into therapy as a result of this incident, which I thought says a lot about the times we live in.

When I was a kid, I had an uncle who lived in another state with his family who (relatively) quickly died of cancer. I think there was only about four months between when the word "cancer" was even first mentioned, and when he was dead. I know it's not quite the same as having a family member suddenly stabbed to death in a shopping mall, but the similarities are probably more pertinant then the differances, you know?

As far as I know, nobody in the whole extended family - not even his immediate family - felt any need to go to a therapist over this. We all just got on with our lives.

And it's gotten me thinking about incidents in high school where one student attempted suicide, and another got hit by a bus, and there was never any push by the school to get any of us to talk to councilors/therapists. We all just shook our heads, said: "Oh dear, that's terrible!", and got back to our schoolwork - mostly, I think, because the vast majority of us had utterly no idea who these victims were.

But I'm starting to see that that's not the world we live in today. I really get the sense that anytime anything bad happens, no matter how tenuous your connection to the incident may be, your expected to go into therapy over it.

And the reason I bring this up is, if we do have such a hair trigger regarding our inclination to go into therapy (or to push someone else into going into therapy), then is it any wonder why the industry is so choked up, and why we constantly hear about 6 month waiting lists to see a therapist these days? Have we, as a society, become far too inclined to go into therapy, simply because it's what's expected of us?

I'd be really interested to hear others' thoughts on this.

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@NatureLover wrote:

I think the perceived stigma about seeing a psychologist still prevents people from attending.


Some time ago, I remember reading that when young people were going to their GPs to sign up for the therapy discount, the GPs would unofficially advise them and their parents not to do it, because having that on your permanent record - that you needed therapy - would really torpedo your chances of getting a job, among other social consequences. I'm not sure if their still issuing those warnings, though.

I suspect this was more a case of the doctors being savvy then paranoid.

So, I don't know... is there some sort of grand agenda to all this? Is the philosophy behind this to create a society where everybody has a history of therapy, to mask the presence of those who have genuinely needed therapy, and thereby make it impossible to descriminate against them, since nobody will be able to tell which ones they are?

Is the bulk of the population basically being herded/conscripted into therapy primarily for the purposes of camoflaging the people who really need it?

Kind of a moot exercise, if that's the case, since the government are the ones who hold the records of a person's therapy plan, and hence they would know which ones are the genuine patients, and which ones are the camoflage.

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I don't think there's a grand agenda of camouflage, @chibam .

Amd I'm sad there's still a stigma.

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@NatureLover I suspect that in many/most cases, by the time the sufferer even starts considering therapy, the community have probably already decided that they don't like them.

I know that in my case, my acquaintances had all started portraying me in an ugly light well before I went into therapy. Therapy was a consequence of my unpopularity, not the cause of it.

Though at the same time, I'm sure that it didn't do any favors for my public image.

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When people deal with a therapist it is like a controlled environment.

If we are moving away from being able to recieve uncontrolled help. It is truly a sad affair in our future.

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I agree with you.

It might not be a popular opinion, but I believe we are overprescribing both therapy and medication for "mental health".

I think the advent of mental health losing it's taboo as a topic has been a blessing to those in positions of power. Why? Because it's a lot easier to shift the "blame" to someone's mental health than to deal with the problems causing the bad mental health (I know this is a bit distant from the Bondi stabbing and sudden death situations you've mentioned).

Say you're in your early 20s. You can barely afford rent. You're working a full time job and studying at the same time because the student allowance is barely enough to pay for your groceries anymore. You're in a heap of HECS debt. You'll probably never be able to afford a home. When you start your career, you won't get promoted unless you job-hop. You'll probably have to live through the affects of climate change.

All this would impact your mood, and rightfully so. But to fix this stuff is too big and hard. But hey, it's easy for the government(s), aristocracy, and oligarchs to say "Oh, you're feeling depressed? You're sick. You need to speak to a therapist and take some drugs."

IMHO whats gradually happened is that any discontent with the state of affairs is being lumped in with ill (mental) health. And who's responsible for ones health? You are!

I feel that maybe before mental health and therapy became mainstream we might be a bit more passionate and vocal about the obvious unfairness that's occurring in our society and economy. Call me a tin-foil-hat wearer but I feel "mental health" has become an overused technique to shift the onus of changing the way you feel about things onto you, rather than the people who can - or at least should try to - actually make positive changes.

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