Overthinking on high alert

Hey @omms ,

I'm sorry you are experiencing this at the moment. I hear how hard it is not to feel safe in your own home.

Have you had a sit-down discussion with your partner about the boundaries that should be set with his 20 year old? Despite being diagnosed with schizophrenia, is it something that stops him from getting out, getting a job and helping himself?

Sometimes, as much as we try to 'help' people, we may inadvertently make them more and more dependent.

Does he have a treating team who can look into supports for him?

It sounds like these are the people who need to support you son in helping him develop the social skills he needs to function @omms .

He's on the NDIS?

Yes he is on the NDIS that was a so hard to get the cost and the paperwork is not easy but we finally got it now trying to get the people we need is a next hard thing as he is not pro active about getting help thinks he doesn’t need it and as he is an adult we can’t force he to do anything

He is seeing his phycologist I think I’m expecting to much most of the time it’s hard as I have two older children who are both adults both had moved out of home when they were in their late teens . I’m trying to learn more about schizophrenia and be more supportive but it’s just so hard

Hey @omms,

I thought I'll check in with you since it's been a couple of days - how're you going?

Hi @omms

I was happily married to a schizophrenic for 10 years. The last one year was pretty hairy and I had to go.

We are best friends today although I have another partner. It's difficult because I can't " care," for him like I used to and seriously I don't want to.

Mental health in my state has I guess gotten better throughout the years.

I'm wondering - one thing that got me through was I joined a well facilitated group called Mental Health Matters 2 in Western Australia. I think their meetings have gone Australia wide.

For years, I carried my burdens to this group and let it all go.

The group changed laws for mental health in this state that were old.

One thing I do remember is that my ex husband explained to me - when he turned 50 was that he had to 'own,' the illness to become responsible.

Maybe you need to look into caring for you like - perhaps - I remember I loved having a cup of tea ☕ first thing in the morning alone.

But your not alone. There are wonderful groups of people who get what your dealing with 🌿💖💖

@lavenderhaze @tyme

Thank you for sharing @PeppyPatti , that's so helpful to read.

It's incredible that you continue to be such good friends with your ex. And that's totally okay.

Yes he's very important to me.