Peer Group Chat// Strengths in the Spotlight // Thursday 6th June 2024, 7-8:30PM AEST

@Captain24 @tyme I am very shy. I don’t come across as being shy, because to earn a living, I had to develop social skills. But I feel the emotion, the shyness, in my heart.

I know this sounds lame, but I just want to meet someone who is kind, respectful, intelligent etc and doesn’t steal my money.

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Wow! Interesting @Captain24 - an introverted adventurer. It sounds like we are all introverts here.

Maybe the extroverts are out partying tonight? LOL.... that's okay, we can have our introvert's party here 🙂 I prefer it.

I’ve lost my social skills @Glisten. I spend my days off home alone and my days at work are basically on my own.

It doesn’t sound lame @Glisten. It sounds lovely.

I don’t really want anyone. I don’t have the confidence to meet anyone and don’t think anyone would want me anyway.

I don’t think ‘adventurer’ means the same as we think @tyme.. Because that doesn’t seem to match. My introversion is really bad..

I didn't realise the time! I'm hopping off now, but i'm going to read the personality profile of adventurer tonight. @Captain24

So so great chatting to you all @Captain24 @Glisten @ArraDreaming

Catchya over the weekend, esp on the Live Chat

@Captain24 There is nothing wrong with being alone and I admire people that are happiest when alone. I think it shows character.

Even when I had a perfectly balanced life, I still wanted a relationship.

I re-took the test and got:

I have to say I’ve never really been in a proper relationship @Glisten. Only inappropriate affairs. I look back and realise that I was never good enough for anyone, just a bit on the side. As I’ve gotten older and wiser I’ve realised I’ve only ever been used. No one really cared.

Now I don’t think I will ever be able to feel like I’m much to anyone. Sometimes it would be nice just to be held or even to be loved. However it is that love feels like. I don’t think I’d know anyway.

@Captain24 Realisation indicates to me that you know what you don’t want.

I was in a de facto relationship for 13 years. I still got used and abused, he was with his third and current victim before he abandoned me.

My therapist asked me “What did he bring to the relationship?”

I said “Nothing.”

She said “Why did you accept that?”

Since then I’ve given myself hard Boundaries:

Respect myself

Actions = Words

Never believe without proof.

Does this elevate and inspire me?

It stopped me from being a people pleaser and I have become selective about who I surround myself with.

Boundries are liberating.

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Think I recently did VIA character. Know I did something that asked lots of questions and then emailed the results.

been struggling recently due to dealing with issues from person who claimed to be a friend. Been talking things through and getting support etc from my therapist. Set boundaries, she would ignore them. Set boundary with repercussion, I got abused in writing. As my therapist agreed, she has been gaslighting me for awhile and I haven’t put the pieces together to realise. About week ago I called her out for gaslighting me and did the boundary with repercussion. Reply couple days later included her lashing back at me with untrue accusation that attacked my character. After couple days I messaged her telling her I was blocking her. Last night was sent screenshot from her Facebook page where herself and another person have publically attacked and defamed my character. Hoping my report to fb gets the post removed. Had a reasonable sleep but still feeling rattled and heart racing

Reply from fb …. Acknowledge the post is against their community standards but unless I can give them exact a,b,c etc the post will stay. Heading out to do my volunteer work, spending few hours amongst rescued cats.

will definitely need to find something to do this afternoon to distract my mind