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relationship with a narcissistic person (edited by moderator)

MW1978Casual Contributor04 June 2024, 10:28 am AEST

relationship with a narcissistic person (edited by moderator)

Well I'm here today to share my story about a relationship with a narcissistic person. This person is a police officer, who I regarded as a friend. We did date, that didn't work, so took a break came back as friends with some benefits. It didn't work for me, but breaking away from him has been such a stressful ordeal. He slanders women, particularly ex partners who have rejected him. In one instance made up a story about a female he dared twice. I reached out to this other female as I was concerned about these alagations. He claimed she had severe mental health issues. Turns out he was messaging her to the point of obsessive. It's really hard to break away from a narcissistic person, as you feel like they play the victim, and everyone else is the issue. I've been stressed and anxious. Felt like I was the one who had mental health problems.

Anyone else dealt with a narcissist?

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QueenB81Contributor10 June 2024, 5:12 am AEST

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I was married to a Narcissist for 7 years. He made me feel so alone and nothing I did was ever good enough. He would dismiss me when I tried to explain to him how he was making me feel and nothing. After 7 years I looked in the mirror and saw nothing but a mere empty vessel running on auto pilot and my sense of self was completely gone. I finally built up the courage to leave him and yes he played victim mentality and told people i was crazy and I cheated on him and the list goes on, if only people realised he was projecting apart of himself as me. It took me 8 years to rebuild myself and heal myself from the trauma he had created and I had many triggers because of it. Now I am almost healed and starting a new pathway to Peer Support Worker and I got my power back and I got my sense of self back and I know who I am and I had to learn to create healthy boundaries so people do disrespect me or abuse me and use me. I stopped being a people pleaser and NO is a perfectly accepted answer and I don't need to justify myself to people who try to make me feel bad for the good I'm doing for myself. Narcissistic abuse is the worst kind of abuse trust me when I say this, I'd rather of been hit as I would have the bruises to prove my abuse. Narcissistic abuse is a combination of psychological and emotional abuse. It takes along time to undo the psychological damage they have created in your mindset and re-wire yourself to have a positive mindset free from the programing of your abuser. There is light at the end of the tunnel you just got to push through and don't give in to responding with a reactive emotional to response to the abuser.

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Lagertha2024New Contributor21 Dec 2024, 11:29 pm AEDT

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Similar experience especially “charmed me….over time, his behaviour changed. He never took accountability for his actions when he hurt me. He invalidated my experiences,

We were together for 9 years, started living together the last year things got worse…I felt like I was walking on egg shells. We broke up recently…now so many of our mutual friends have opened up & revealed things about his behaviour that I didn’t see. Right now I feel like such a fool for not seeing it sooner.

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