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I realised after reading these answers was that I needed to acknowledge my beginning to enmesh with my ex husband.

I needed to be stronger.

I'm still learning too.

Hey there @PeppyPatti 🌺💜

Sorry for the delay - sounds like dating scam profiles on the web site to me.
these can be reported to the dating website administrator, or to the police if money has been coerced out of someone (it’s considered a cybercrime).
I hope otherwise Mr Buddha can get some help around recognising scams while still enjoying what he wants to do. This I’m guessing could be done by his support coordinator by accessing support workers specialised in awareness of these things 🙂🌺

like social workers, financial advisors and occupational therapists.

I hope it’s getting better 🙂💜🌺

Unbelievable @Former-Member

I was not caring for me I need to put more boundaries in.

But if he continues, I'll need to contact his NDIS support coordinator ....

Yes very important there @PeppyPatti to look after yourself - its hard when we are helping others that we care about, not to get overly invested, however knowing there is a place for care but how best to do it is the hardest bit.

Take care of yourself, and I think discussing it with someone else who is in a trusting position and ask them to get supports in place might be helpful indeed 🙂

Dearest @PizzaMondo

I care very very much for my ex husband.

However putting up this thread has made me feel about boundaries and self care.

I feel myself sinking into his issues because he can't stop blowing his money on these girls who are much younger than him.

Last night I messaged him that he won't be getting $20 per week from me anymore and I don't want to hear from him again if he's keeps on doing this.

I don't know what to do because he's very poor but ......

He at last after all these years is doing silversmithing. He sells his beautiful jewellery at a store. He is going to give this money to them for showing their boobs to him.

I don't know what to do.

Dear @PizzaMondo

thank you.

I help him financially because I know him very well and I know his past.

I'm struggling financially too just like many many other people.

I don't want him to take advantage of my generosity as well. The money usually doubles or whatever every week. When you give the money it's with an open heart but I'm not going to give money knowing what he's doing.

His NDIS has been doing well. At last, hey getting a little life. Someone with an average of 150 IQ gets something he he loves which is silversmithing and he sells his jewellery.

He likes buying a couple of people in his class a coffee each and I help him facilitate this.

But truthfully, I'm emotionally drained.

My partner doesn't need to feel he is in a relationship with two people. Me and him.

I want to be free to see my adult children without obsessed with him

Or be in a relationship withot him contacting me all the time.

it's come to this but I'm mindful I need my own life today and the crew from @Sane show me this.

I saw my Psychotherapist today. She has verbally told me that if he calls his NDIS support coordinator, get the payments happening she will see him.

It just feels so terribly unfair he's missed out on so so much...

how can I wrench myself free fro this ?

Hi y'all

This is an update on my ex husband.

I'v been working very hard in not being enmeshed anymore.

It's working --- this has what's evolved in past week.

He came over and was freaking out over having 3000 on his Facebook page of women contacting him. Especially one who bared herself and promised fidelity but unfortunately her mobile phone just broke and she can't contact him anymore.

But she can receive messages. My partner, Mr Rocker and I were horrified.

My partner spoke very casual and said about safety......

we got out of him that the hospital cut his antipsychotics in half about six months previously. He spoke that he is feeling alive and the feelings were making him feel wonderful.

Last Friday, myself and my carer drive over to see him. She has had much experience in schizophrenia.

As his next of kin, I asked if it was interfering that I contact the hospital ? She said yes and I understood her reasoning but when she saw him she said he is quite messy.

Then there was a breakthrough.

I walked across the road to purchase nice coffees and him a gingerbread man. ( Us croissants )

When we walked back was an OT and her student visiting him. I was able to voice all concerns with my ex husband threatening to mash my head against the wall.

It was wonderful.

I said of the money wasted he spent giving girls money.

His irrational behaviour.

Everything.

We left, we got in the car and drive away and it's not upsetting me anymore.

He still speaks to me every day. But he speaks only for 5 -10 minutes as his priority is convincing

3000 women that he is a nice person.