Thanks again everyone for your help.
new years eve was a nightmare with my husband ....true to his usual patterns.
he kept demanding that i drive him in his car to the emergency department at the hospital because he said his temperature was up. his temperature was normal so i said no. he kept up with his demands getting louder and more belligerent all the time. eventually i lost my patience and told him if he wanted to stay in hospital he should have said so before they discharged him the day before. he said he didn't.
i told him it is funny how he always insists on going back to hospital 5 minutes after getting home and also that they know about his self inflicted and made up ailments because his stories simply don't add up.
it is heatwave conditions here and i couldn't take any more so i told him if he wanted to go to hospital for no reason then he would have to get a taxi.i reminded him that he knew if he really needed medical help i would get it for him straight away but this time he knew he did not need it and was making things up to try and sabotage the peace. (he does not like things to work out well and if they do then he does his utmost to destroy that)
he seemed to back down but then at 10pm he started again demanding that i drive him to emergency at the hospital. i said no, it is not appropriate to take the emergency department people's time for nothing.
i expected him to storm out of the house, or run away to his elderly parents or his brother's place or just yell and scream more, or call the police because i didn't do what he ordered me to do.....all things he has done many times over the years.
to my surprise he went to bed and went to sleep.
new years day he spent moaning and saying he was in pain. the community nurse phoned and he refused to speak with her. i managed to talk him around and get him to phone her back and return her call. he did not like what she said when she told him to see his gp in the first instance instead of going to hospital emergency.
he has hardly eaten on new years day but he had plenty of water, soft drink and tea. i wonder if his next ailment will be somehow related to not eating enough.
eventually he went to bed at 11.30pm on new years night and is now still asleep.
when he went to sleep it was absolute bliss. first i brought the washing in and put it away. then i watched a recorded episode of my favourite tv show ''outnumbered'' which made me laugh.
now the quiet is beautiful....the quiet after the storm.....and possibly the quiet before the next storm.
i hope everyone else is doing o.k.
thanks for your help.
