Complex-PTSD husband and therapist

Hey @Healandlove just popping in to share something I learned at uni - a massive study (I cannot remember which) that found that the most important factor in the efficacy of any therapy is the relationship between therapist and client; trust and safety within the relationship matters far more than the therapeutic modality/approach used. Psychodynamic psychotherapy is actually one that really leans into the therapeutic relationship as an agent of change, so it could be a good fit - probably will just depend on how your husband and the new therapist go in building that relationship. I hope it ends up being really helpful for him 🤞💜

@Jynx thank you so much for your reply and insight. My husband really likes this therapist and I told his therapist that my husband feels safe with him and trusts him and that is so good because he really doesn't have any close relationships with anyone (not with his father, mother, brother etc) to be able to talk about his mental health.

I hope you are right and this therapy helps him get better. I really hope he doesn't give up on himself or on his family.

Thank you again, I hope you are having a good evening 🙏🏻 😊

Hey there @Healandlove 💜🌺

I hope you’re feeling ok today after seeing your husbands tpst and discussing the therapy.
I read a while ago that psychodynamic psychotherapy may not be as effective in ptsd, however I have no personal experience with this therapy at all.
I also guess that some therapies differ greatly in efficacy depending on individuals and rapport with therapists too 🙂🌺

I hope that’s helpful..?
sorry I’m having a kind of bad day today 😔

found you my @Healandlove 😍

aww @Former-Member , sorry to hear you are having a bad day ❤️

Thanks @Shaz51 💜

Hey @Healandlove ,

I've heard only a little about this type of therapy and I don't think I've got any more to add than what others have shared already.

To be honest, if your husband is comfy with this therapist, it's actually a really good start. A lot of people find it very hard to click with someone.

From my experience, there are many very qualified therapists, but if they don't click with their clients, it makes it very hard for anything to be effective.

We will wait to hear from you.

I'm glad you were able to speak to the therapist too.

@tyme , thank you so much for your encouraging words and taking the time to reply. I hope you had a nice Sunday 🥰😘

Hello and hugs my @Healandlove been thinking of you lots 💖

Hope you are OK, here for you xx

morning @Healandlove

wondering how everything is going this week xx

@Shaz51 thank you my lovely friend. Today has been hard. I feel heavy in my heart about the estrangement with my sister. It's almost like the EMDR hasn't worked at all...My husband is distant and detached so these times make me miss more a close relationship with my sister which in truth I never had. I have been talking to my mum and crying this last hour. My mum listens but can't give much comfort. I guess it is the emotional burden I carry...

I don't understand why I have this need to be loved and protected by my sister.

Anyway...I will talk to the therapist about this. Perhaps EMDR can't help with these thoughts, feelings.

How is Mr Shaz coping with retirement? And you? Sending you ❤️ love and 🫂 hugs.