My dad

Hey there @BlueBay ,

We are so glad to see you.

I'm sorry how hard things have been for you. The steps you took to protect yourself were so needed as the non-relationship was becoming so hurtful to you.

I'm a firm believer in karma. That's all I can say. I don't know the future, but I feel things are going to work in your favour.

Please don't let this eat you up inside. I'm so glad you've come to get the emotional support you deserve.

If your dad is at the hospital, your mum can't stop you from visiting, right?

Take each moment at a time. Step-by-step.

Hugs, tyme

@Shaz51

Thanks @tyme

Don’t think I can see him in hospital. My sister wanted to see him in hospital two weeks ago and was told no - only visitor which is another sibling (who doesn’t talk to me).
I’ve been literally shut out. I’m trying to think that now it is what it is and I can’t do anything. Yes you’re right about karma.xx

But who said no? The mum? @BlueBay

I went to see an elderly neighbour in hospital only last week. They allow 2 visitors at a time and the visiting hours were 2-8pm.

Unless he is immunocompromised or in a special part of the hospital, I don't see why you can't enquire.

@tyme
My mum !!!! And also another sibling is the carer and has power of attorney medical and financial. She is there all day. So my sister wasn’t allowed to go.
I know it sucks. My mum is horrible.

I wonder if you have any rights, legally speaking? At the same time, I reckon your dad would just agree to anything your mum tells him @BlueBay

At the same time, I feel, by you being down or upset, it's fuel for them to continue how they are treating you. I'm sure your dad knows deep down that you love him. Yet he knows he doesn't have the power to do or say anything...

You know what? I encourage you to strengthen yourself and not let this pull you know. This doesn't mean you can't be sad, angry or upset and you have every right to be - but don't let that keep you down.

As I read and reflect on the whole situation, I can't even explain how I am feeling, except that, I wouldn't give up. I will not let them see me sad, down or angry - because that's exactly what they are waiting for to 'prove' I'm not good for my dad...

It's certainly stirred up a fight within me - seriously!

I know what you’re saying @tyme but I’m not sure I have the strength. I just hope that my dad knows how much I love him and miss him. I’m sure he knows what my mum is like.
I’ve done nothing wrong to deserve this. But I did think - the only wrong thing I did …… was tell her about my childhood abuse. That’s when she made my life hell.

im going to bed as I’m struggling mentally tonight. I’ll come back tomorrow. Thanks so much @tyme xx

You're a fighter. You always have. @BlueBay

TW: SA

Let me know if you want me to remove this as I know it can be a sensitive topic.

Rest up @BlueBay - I'll check in another day.

Hello sweetheart

I'm reading your story , and just felt l wanted to reach out to you .

I feel it's sad you were made to feel isolated because you spoke up about something ( BTW well done )

And you had every reason to keep your distance ..

As for your poor dad , if it was me l would ring the hospital for a visting time, l could go without anyone else there .

Please don't feel bad , he's in the right place and lm sure he knows you love him .

Please take care

Love and hugs coming your way

X

Thank you @Cheeky123

I’ve woken up this morning with my dad very much on my mind. I have no idea what time he’s surgery is. I know nothing.
Last year when I called the hospital to see how my dad was I was told no information was allowed to be given out. Only one person (sister who I don’t talk to) was the only person. When I said “I’m a daughter as well” the nurses response was that.

I'm praying that today goes well and he gets through the surgery.
it’s going to be a hard worrying day.

@tyme good idea about TW. Thank you.