Don't know if I am helping my daughter or not

Hi there @Lindaloo99 ,

Thank you for sharing. It sounds like an incredibly difficult place to be in right now. I hear how much you are doing for your daughter, yet you and her are still hurting.

I read that she is on medication, however, has she been in touch with an alcohol/drug specialist? It might be worth looking into as they can provide the support she may be needing right now.

Alcohol can certainly affect medication. It is also known to affect mood and can leave people quite low after a while.

I hear you are doing what you can for her. I wonder if the best thing you can do for her is to empower her to take the steps towards her own recovery? e.g. provide her with numbers to your AOD specialist, listen to her, set boundaries to help her to take charge of her recovery?

You are probably doing all these things already. Please don't give up. There IS hope.

At the same time, please look after yourself.

My brother-in-law had a drug addiction for many years. He used it as an escape. He ended up in and out of rehab and it never worked because his parents wanted him to do it.

However, there came a point where he wanted to get clean. And he ended up doing it without rehab. He had moral support, but the main difference here is that HE wanted to get clean. This also included alcohol which replaced drugs for a while. He then realised he needed to stop the alcohol.

And yes, to this day, he is clean, but he lives with the consequences of drug use - psychosis. He will be on medication for the rest of his life, but he knows that and is willing. After getting clean, he married my sister, and now has 3 children. He is doing very well.

I hope that things will work out for your daughter too. The main thing is that she has to want to make the change as it's not easy @Lindaloo99

tyme

It took a lot though @Lindaloo99 . I'm in no ways saying it was easy. However, he had to come to a point where he knew it was do or die. He had to make the choice.

It's been 10 years now since being clean. There were a few hiccups to start off with as the psychosis and hallucinations that came with withdrawal was quite intense. He then turned to alcohol. But with plenty of encouragement, he's in a good and stable place.

I also hope that your daughter will come to the place where she wants to better herself. She is so lucky to have you support her.

All the best. I look forward to hearing how things go for you.

Darling lady

From one mum to another

I also have two children 19 & 20 , both girls .

Who have very complex mental health problems , the youngest left private school in yr 11 , and has had many jobs but could never sustain them , is currently on the disability pension after 10 plus years of illness .

She's been to a private mental health facility and also to a public and to parc , had an private psychologist and psychiatric doctor

And we are still not right .

My best friends daughter had a diagnosis of bipolar 2 and straight away was put on the correct medicine

And is fantastic ! ( alittle envious of this ) although happy for the child x

My eldest is struggling financially emotionally physically as well

Has sustained some work and living out of home

I'm a full time carer for a man with parkisons disease with an income of $480 a week

$220 is bills.

I so feel for you sweetheart , it's the hardest thing in the world to see someone you love not want to live , and for me attempting to die more than once

My personal opinion is why cant a brain scan be done ?

The amount of drugs thrown at them is insane

Suggestions to help ?

Public system has seemed to offer more support for my youngest in terms of helping her get a job etc ..

They seem to have more resources than private ? ( my experience only )

All l can offer is a chat and an eat

And wish you luck ..

We have Been through every avenue possible ,

At some stage it may be a case of we can only do so much

I will obviously love them to the day l die. Like you do , but unfortunately ot takes its toll on us mote than anyone realises or even wants to know .

Hugs sweetheart

Let me know how you go

Possibly tests for different things as well xo