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Compassion fatigue: When caring hurts too much

Compassion fatigue: When caring hurts too much

While caring for others usually comes from a place of compassion, over long periods of time, it can lead to compassion fatigue - feeling tired, angry and powerless, and sometimes going into dissaosciative states. A lot of stuff out there, like this article talks about how health professionals can experience a range of different symptoms. But compassion fatigue is not restricted to carers - they usually don't have a personal connection nor do they live the people they care for like many on us here.

One of our forum members, Jo, talks about disassocation here, she describes it as "a state that one can slip into when the stress and burn-out becomes too much. You go into 'automatic', carrying out everything you have to do and what's expected of you, but it's as if you're in a sort of dream state.' Has anyone experienced this? Or are you feeling burnt-out?"

This article explains that compassion fatigue can commonly occur due to "other-directed care giving" in which people "were taught at an early age to care for the needs of others before caring for their own needs."

@Cazzie @Former-Member @BeHappy @Snoo @Louise last week we spoke about feeling tired. I'm wondering what are people thoughts on this? Do you agree that there are patterns in your life that have taught you to put other people's needs before your own?

@countrymum you have spoken about the difficulties of caring for your son too much with the heart. Looking back is compassion fatigue something you can relate to?

@maddison you're currently caring for your housemate, any thoughts on this?

Looking forward to hearing people's thoughts on this,

CB

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Thankyou Maddison, thankyou for your support, your advice was great and I think you are right about dont wrorry about the references. I guess its just a learning curve caring for someone. Im gonna speak to my dr next week and see what she suggests about the whole situation, if not just for something for me to manage my stress levels.

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@Kat80 @maddison

Caring roles are difficult. Wish I could offer better advice. Atm I am thrust again into one. Two of my medical supports say I should refuse to do anything, but I am a mum and cannot.. I hope sharing and reading others stories helps you sift through options and carve out your own path in it.

Apple

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Hi @Kat80, @maddison, @Shaz51 & all following along 😊 Firstly, I want to give a shout out to all of you who care and give of yourselves to support the loved ones in your lives, and I'm so sorry you're experiencing these things- compassion fatigue and burnout can be so hard. I'm hoping these few resources might help- Sane has an article on carer burnout & Carer Gateway also has a few tips. Please don't forget to take care of yourselves too- something I've learnt (& at times relearnt or been reminded of, often the hard way) is that you can't take care of others unless you take care of yourself first. Wishing all of you the very best as you navigate this road. Feel free to keep posting here for support among your peers as you need. You're not alone in this! 💜

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Really appreciate everyones comments, Im off to the doc tommorow so Ill let you know how it goes. Im hoping I will feel more positive after that.

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That's great news @Kat80. I just realised that you posted this yesterday. How did it go? It's inspiring to hear you are taking action. My GP prescribed me an anti depressant a few years ago. Mainly for insomnia, but also depression. It has helped tremendously, more than any other AD but I was unaware of the side effects & now am miserable with my substantial weight gain. (Perhaps I'm also comfort eating) I had no idea how difficult it was going to be to stop taking & am in the process of a very slow tapering process at the moment. It is the hardest AD to stop. I wish I had known some of this before I started & almost feel as its irresponsible for GPs to prescribe, considering withdrawals. Just thought I'd share my experience. If you are consider meds, also maybe research. I am always around if you ever need to vent, or if not, that is fine too 💜🙂

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Hey TT.

Thanks for the article you linked on sane re: carer burnout.

had a set back today with my partner who i care for and this really helped me. Thank you.
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