Complex-PTSD husband and therapist

@TideisTurning @tyme @amber22 @Shaz51 , @Former-Member thank you so much for your thoughts

@TideisTurning is so helpful to know your experience. Just as an update we discussed it with our marriage psychologist. She said that it's a good idea as long as I was okay with it. She asked my husband what would be the purpose and he said he wants to make sure he doesn't miss communicate the therapist words and he is keen for me to go. Having read your experience @TideisTurning , this reinforces my desire to go. I asked my husband if there was anything he didn't feel comfortable with me discussing in front of his therapist and he said no.

And so and the Easter long weekend comes, I am feeling sad due to the wider family estrangement due to my husband. However I am going to aim to have as good a time celebrating with my little family. I also have a phone call with my book club so I am looking forward to it.

As always thank you all for being such an important and cherished support network for me.

Sounds like a positive step forward to being involved @Healandlove

My husband wants me to be with his meetings all the time ,

At first felt strange and wanted to cry but now it is different but he has improved in some areas but then he could be back in hospital tomorrow

Yes my husband wants to stay home , does not want to go anywhere

So very quiet here , D1 is coming to visit today sometime

@Shaz51 , oh it must be an emotional toll to be in all meetings with your husband. You are so strong and brave to do this and it is good to see that you have reached the point of being OK so as to not need to cry.

It must be very hard having to stay home all the time. Do you get a chance to have some "me" time?

Today we had Easter Friday dinner and as a support person I tried my best to carry on although we couldn't be with the extended family. My husband on the other hand mopped around and was distant. I am guessing he has guilt, shame and other things that get amplified during these times. It is exhausting for me as I have to be the one holding the family together emotionally. For the most part I was OK but as the day end and he retreats emotionally I just want to cry. Sometimes it feels too much and too hard. I hope I can hang in there.

Sending you hugs and love ❤️.

Morning @Healandlove

Ohh I still have tears at the meetings

I go and visit my mum in hospital every second day

And also we work together, a 2 hour job a day is enough for us both now , so I do my jobs and he does his

With your day yesterday, I think your husband was feeling bad because you were feeling sad and he was beating himself up inside

Sending you lots of understanding hugs as we don't get invited to family things anymore

but I have a couple of family members keep in touch by messages

@Shaz51 , thank you so much for your kind and understanding words. I guess it is so hard for people with cptsd to understand that in moments like this, the best thing to do is to come closer, hug, cry together, be vulnerable...That would make such a world of difference for me. My husband has his moments of vulnerability but they are far and few between.

I am sorry you have also been outcasted from family. It's really hard. I am glad that you still have some supportive family members that still keep in touch.

Also sending you hugs 🫂 🤗 ❤️